thanks for the advice! i think part of his problem is that he has a little brother that his parents pretty much worship because he's a superstar athlete and straight A student. my bf is always home alone because his parents are always at his brother's games. so maybe thats part of it. but my bf is a really good athlete too. and hes not stupid... he gets okay grades but hes really smart about a lot of things. and everyone loves him... he was voted funniest and best personality of our class. basically because he shows off a lot to get attention. he also flirts with girls all the time (which is a whole nother problem that i didnt include) because he loves the attention. so he shouldnt be insecure, but i guess he is.
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? Xenolan answered Wednesday May 30 2007, 11:18 pm: Ah, the younger brother who steals the spotlight. That clarifies things rather a lot. I wouldn't be surprised if that were the bulk of his problem - it's difficult having a younger sibling who outshines you (I went through it on the other end; I WAS the younger sibling, and I could never figure out why my older brother felt a constant need to put me down).
My advice remains the same, and I'm glad you appreciate it. You still need to talk to him - DON'T suggest that it's his younger brother he's upset about, because (1) I might be wrong about that, and (2) if I'm right, he won't want to admit it anyway, and you mentioning it will just make him angry.
A subtle approach might be a good move. If there's something that he's significantly better at than his brother, you might start calling attention to that and see if it boosts his mood. Good luck! [ Xenolan's advice column | Ask Xenolan A Question ]
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