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how can i have a good sex on first night
i am getting marrie tonight and we both are virgin and dont know what to do,i am confused.but i am littel bit nurves also,that how can i have sex with a virgin girl,she is 24 and i am 25,and from where i have to start first lolzz
answer me please
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First of all, try to relax. You're both new at this and, like anything else, you're not going to be experts from moment one. Don't try to do anything acrobatic or crazy; you'll have lots of time to experiment with new positions, role-playing, and exotic costumes later. It should be about enjoying this new-found intimacy with each other, nothing more.
A little preparation will help. Have some K-Y jelly handy; it's a water-based lubricant that may be useful if it turns out to be a little painful for her. Also, assuming that you're not trying for a baby right away, you'll want to have your birth control figured out and taken care of. Fortunately, you don't need to worry at all about STDs! Oh, and have something handy by the bedside to clean up with, like a damp cloth or something.
When the time comes, take it as slowly as you need to; there is no need to rush. Weddings are exhausting - if you're just plain too tired to consummate on your wedding night, let it go until the following day! You don't need to follow anyone else's rules; this is YOUR marriage.
Make it romantic for her! It's your wedding night (or shortly thereafter) so love is already in the air; all you need to do is enhance it. In order to make it a truly memorable experience for both of you, keep the mood going in the honeymoon suite. Choose music that you want to associate with this happy memory for years to come. Candlelight and flowers are essential, and a bit of champagne to toast with privately can be a nice touch (the bottle will also make a great keepsake). Again, take it slowly, cherish the experience, and touch her in loving and gentle ways. Don't be in a hurry; you and your new bride have all the time in the world, and it's all about the two of you being together in a wonderfully intimate way.
Needless to say, this is no time for practical jokes. Sometimes, overenthusiastic groomsmen will do stupid things like fill the honeymoon suite with crumpled newspaper, or leave inflatable sex toys in the bed, or things of that nature. If your friends have a warped sense of humor and you think they might actually try something like that, make it clear that you won't appreciate any of that sort of thing on your wedding night, and that you won't forgive them easily for ruining it.
As for what you actually do once you get there... this is a website with underage members, so unfortunately I can't give you any practical advice of a descriptive nature. There are places you can go for that kind of information; books and websites about sex are everywhere. Really, though, it's NOT that complicated. Just do what feels right.
(With all due respect to the previous responder, porn is about fantasy, NOT reality, and Penthouse is not where you should go for advice. It would be like trying to learn about archaeology by watching Indiana Jones.)
The hardest part is that when you're actually "doing it", she may feel some inevitable pain. The key is to go slowly and let her set the pace. A little KY might help (do NOT use vaseline or any other non-water-based lubricant; it can cause a serious bacterial infection because it doesn't wash away).
When you're "done", you're not done. Hold her close, enjoy the afterglow, tell her how much you love her, how beautiful she is, how fortunate you are to be married to her, that kind of thing. Have another glass of champagne together. If your room has a jaccuzi, hop in for a warm bath with her. DO NOT TURN ON THE TV. If she just wants to go to sleep, let her; remember, she may be emotionally and physically exhausted, and if that's the case don't take it personally.
In the end, it will be the romantic atmosphere and the feeling of love that will be memorable, not your technique or skill level in bed. Concentrate on satisfying her emotionally, and the physical part will follow.
Good luck, and happy marriage!
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first of all congratulations on the wedding and 2 thumbs up for waiting till marriage wow that is great ;-)
2nd take a deep breathe relax and have fun just enjoy each other tonight it is your special night later on down the road if you both like try getting a book called Penthouse forum or variations at the gas station they are 4 or 5 bucks and tell all about sex or try investing in a porn this is if you both are comfortable with this this is for later too not tonight tonight is about you and her if something isn't comfortable wait a minute until you are rady again. Also for a 1st time some vaginal lube might be necessary you can get this at Walmart Near the condems there are also some massage oils that heat up read the directions
try this site for ideas on positions
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Good Luck ;-)
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chill okay your gitting married and you said your both virgins so your partner is most likely just as nervous as you are and it's the first time so its okay if its not the best sex ever. talk to your partner ask if they feel okay if it hurts or if theres anything you can do to make it better.
hope i helped a little!
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