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Guilt
Hey everyone, I need some help.
I've looked up things I wasn't supposed to for a really long time - without feeling guilty because most anyone at that age is normally interested in those types of websites. & I never felt guilty about it. Maybe because I'm growing up, that's what my mom said before. But this time I looked up some erotic type quizzes & became interested in them, then read an erotic story which I don't read very often but when given the chance - It's not uncommon for me to read it. So anyway, I feel really badly about it. Either that or indigestion, lol. That same kind of thing happened before when I didn't do anything wrong that day. I ate a lot today so maybe I'm just having indigestion? If not, can someone please help me on finding a way to tell her that I actually looked up porn and erotic things?
Thanks
Any help is appreciated.
13/f
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Why does your mom need to know that you look up erotic stories and things? Besides creating an awkward situation, what would you hope to get from this? It's totally normal to look at erotic pictures and stories, hell it's normal to watch a porno or 2 before you're 16. Chances are your mom isn't going to feel the same way. Maternal worries may include underage pregnancy, STD's, online predators, etc... Even if you're not having sex in real life, your mom has a different perspective and shouldn't be the one you talk to about this. Talk with friends, chances are they're doing it too.
All that being said, anywhere you go online and anything you type can be traced by spyware your mom can easily download on your family computer. So, make sure you use a totally private computer, or your mom may bring up your online erotica habits sooner than you'd wish. And not on your terms.
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You should sit her down and explain to her what exactly you were looking at. It is not uncommon to look at things like this at your age, or any age for that matter. You don't have anything to feel guilty about.
You can tell her that your friends were talking about it and you were just curious as to what all the fuss was about.
Your mother was your age once too, and she understands that you are curious. She knows you have a libido and she knows that you can become aroused at such a young age.
The stronger the relationship between you and your mother, the easier it will be to tell her what you have been looking up. It's okay to tell her that you felt embarassed asking her or any adult the strong questions you want to ask.
I hope this helps!
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