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Asking the parents about contraception etc
Hey sam,
I have recently turned sixteen and I am in a long term relationship with my boyfriend (we have now been together for over 19 months). We are both sixteen.
Thing is, whenever he comes round to my house, he is not allowed in my room, so we don't get that much privacy. It wouldn't be so much of an issue but whenever I go round his house, we never get privacy either as he has two brothers and a sister!
I want to ask my mum and dad if he is allowed to go in my room now, as we are both sixteen and been together for ages, but they're wuite strict with this sort of thing so I'm scared. We don't want to have sex or anything in my room, because I'm not ready for that and he is happy to wait until I am. We just want some privacy!
Also, I want to ask them if I can go on the pill to make my periods easier to deal with and so I am on contraception when we do have sex. Again, I am scared to ask them about this, and I don't want to go behind their backs because I repsect their opinion.
What can I do? Help!
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There is no other solution other than to ask your parents. You're right - you don't want to go behind their back because if you get caught, they'll suspect you're guilty of something & you might lose all priveleges to hang out with him @ your house. So talk to your parents, explain to them that you don't plan on having sex with him & that you just want your privacy. Tell them that if they don't fully trust you, you'll leave your door halfway open. (It's better than not hanging out in your room at all.) I'm sure they'll consider your wishes as long as you come up on some kind of agreement that'll ease their minds. If they still don't agree with it, all you can do is accept it & wait till you're old enough to move out & make your own rules.
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Its best to talk to whichever parent you are closest to; pref your mum because she has been in the situation you are in. assure your mum you are not looking to have sex; that you want to go on the pill for your periods; which she probably already knows are painful, probably heard in you in pain. then ask if your boyfriend is allowed into your room, assure that you will have the door partially open if that reassures her. after a while, they get used to it. and you will get more privacy!!and respect!
good luck
charming ashlie
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