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Confession...
This might be long. Bear with me, please.
All the time I read questions about your best friend having feelings for you and you not knowing what to do. I just gave a whatever answer. Now I'm in the same situation and I guess I know how those people felt when they came here to ask their questions...
I'm 18/f. I've known my best friend (17/f) for about 2.5 years. Friends haven't lasted for longer than a year with me since I move a lot with my family, so this is just wow for me. We've been through everything together. We hang out a lot and most of the time, we talk about homosexuality and all that. She's never had a bf before, so she thinks she's better of being a lesbo or a bi. I have a bf (for a year now) but I still joked around saying that I'd like to try it with a 'she' one day.
One day, my bf called me and said that he thinks that my best friend is his 'competition'. I was like, wtf...Anyway. And I never really knew why my best friend hated my bf.
So on Friday, me and my best friend went out and we had something to 'drink'. I had 2 sips even though I'm addicted to alcohol like hell. She had way too much to drink, and she drank fast. She got drunk and I had to drive her home with her car, blah blah. We got home, and she was all giggly and dizzy and she threw up 4 times. I was with her through this whole thing, helping her, bringing her water to wash her face, etc. Now, they say that drunk people speak 100% truth when they're totally wasted. So after she finished puking, she closed her eyes and said "I love you". I sensed a different tone in her face - not a drunk one, but a really innocent honest one. I told her "No, I'm your best friend". She opened her eyes, looked at me and said "No, I love you". At that point I broke down and started crying, I dunno why...
I'm really confused because I think I might have feelings for her too. Next morning, she woke up and told me she didn't remember anything after she got home. I told her what happened, but I didn't tell her about her 'confession'. I don't think I want to. But that's not fair for her...also, I don't want her to think I'm abusing her or her decision of being a lesbo or bi and 'trying' it with her just because she's the only one available.
Keep in mind that i have a boyfriend who i'm in love with so much. He jokes saying "if you're gonna kiss a girl, make sure you do it in front of me" and stuff but I know he'd be so heartbroken. I need help. How do I confront her? I'm scared to face my best friend. I haven't seen or talked to her since Friday. And it's summer and the schools are over and she expects to hang out with me like ... everyday!
She's a great person but I don't want our friendship to be ruined...should I just wait till she tells me about it when she's not drunk next time and not tell her anything at all or ... should I forget it happened?
Thanks in advance even if you're one of those people who read the questions but don't answer.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Your friend is single and you're the closest person she has in her life. You've been through so many things together, you can talk about everything, and naturally she started having feelings for you. For most people it's hard being single, and she is probably yearning for a romantic relationship.
The good thing here is that she doesn't EXPECT you to fill that place in her life, and by all means don't give her hope unless you really feel the same about her! This is what you have to ask yourself - who do you want to be with, her or your boyfriend? I assume your answer will be 'boyfriend', so the best thing to do is let your best friend stay exactly what she is, your best friend.
I don't think you have to confront her about what she said. While it helps sometimes, there are situations where it would cause more damage than good. You already know deep in your heart that she meant what she said, and you know it's not her fault. Neither of you did anything shameful. But it's necessary that you make it clear you're in love with your boyfriend and you're not going to become romantically or sexually involved with her. So no more 'I'd like to try it with a girl' statements, because she will read into it more than you would want her to. I'm all for experimentation, but breaking your boyfriend's heart and losing your best friend aren't worth it!
If you want to talk more about it, feel free to message me at any time :)
Love,
Agnes
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