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My ex-girlfriend is ruining my life, but not deliberately
Hi, I'll try to be detailed yet succinct so you know all the facts. Ruth, is the girl that I am in love with, I started to fall in love with her in December and it developed into full blown love. We got together on December 8th '07, only 3 weeks after she split up with a guy she was and still is in love with. Obviously this would be a problem and throughout our relationship it has been. We split up a week ago, and in no uncertain terms she broke my heart. To say i have issues is an understatement, and in having personal issues that affected me i pushed her away until she couldn't be with me, i hate myself for that. Now i've been trying to show her that i can cope with those issues, and i've already started getting help. I'm in love with her and what to be back with her. However, ive found out that since sunday she's been texting her ex and theyr'e talking about "taking things slow" and seeing if they can get back together. I don't want that to happen becuase he cheated on her once before, is at university while we're at school and is 4 years older than her. He's a bastard basically and i know he'll ruin her again. What do I do? She knows i love her, and she's told me she loves me, but she loves him. I confronted her and asked her to tell me there was no chance for us ever being together again, but she couldn't because i think she wants to be together, but at the same time doesn't. Help? I love her, i really really do. More than 'he' could, and i would'nt do anything to hurt her. Thanks for any help.
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You may not be open enough to her and there may be things that her ex did for her that you do dont or a way he made her feel that she just doesnt feel with you. Trust me, I kind of feel the same way as her just different circumstances. I'm really sorry. All I can say is if things dont start to look up soon, then force yourself to move on. It is something that sounds bad but may be necessary. You do not want to put your life on hold for anyone else. And you obviously deserve someone better than to leave you for an ex let alone get with you in the first place. She got with you to get over him but she couldnt. Now she doesnt want you but she doesnt want to hurt you because it hurts her seeing you hurt. I know this sounds brutal and honey I am sorry. But I am in her same position and im a woman, and my womanly instincts are telling me she is doing the same thing i thought about doing last week. If you need someone to talk to you can email me. Keosha15@aol.com
Good luck.
I hope that I helped.
*Keosha*
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