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sense of humor
i'm married to a man that i do love and care for my marriage is great and yes i'm happy with him, but sometimes its very tirering when you can't really be free.example: he might say something i will respond with a sarcastic answer with that he will take personally and try to turn it as if i ment it seriously, when it wasn't "get it".
here goes my question:
can a person be that up tight in the mist of a sarcastic statement or joke to not find the humor in it? can a marriage last or be stressfree ever with out a little humor?
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Talk to him about it. If you generally throw out sarcastic statements, then tell him to be ready for it. Ask if he would prefer that you don't. I understand where he is coming from. First, you have to see what mood he is in before you make the comments. Maybe you could even try to make your comments obviously sarcastic, so that there is no doubt that you were only joking. He might take everything his wife says to heart - which can be a good thing sometimes - but, he might feel inferior if he gets it more often than not. Make sure that you let him know you aren't putting him down or think he's bad, that you simply were joking around and meant no harm. Ask him what he wants you to do. If he makes a sarcastic comment, don't explode at him for not letting you do the same...he just might be a bit more sensitive and not pick up on the sarcasm as easily as you might. Give it some time and definitely talk to him about it. Hope that helped and good luck.
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If there's one thing that can save anything,I would say that it's humor. If you have a great sense of humor and you're husband's dull,there's hardly any chance that it's going to work out in the future.You're going to get stressed when he turns sarcasm into seriousness,and when things get rough there isn't going to be that joke or witty remark to brighten things up.
I'd talk to him about it to make sure that you two are on the same level and let him know that he shouldn't take you so seriously all the time.
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