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What do I do about this guy?
Hi. I'm a 16/f. So there is this guy I like that goes to another school. When he and I started hanging out a lot, he had a girlfriend of like 6 months, but we were just hanging out as friends. Then he we decided that we liked each other. He broke up with his girlfriend (he said he was unhappy with her), and we started talking. I didn't want to rush into anything, so we agreed to just keep hanging out and talking and see where things went. Then he ended up getting back with his girlfriend one night. But we agreed to still be friends. Now, we are still hanging out. I still like him a lot. He tells me and everyone else how unhappy he is with his girlfriend. He said he had to give her just one more chance, but she didn't change. He also keeps saying "She's about to lose a great guy". So when we hang out, we just act like friends. But the other night, a bunch of people were at this girls house, and a lot of people ended up staying the night out in her back yard in tents (He invited me, & not his girlfriend). That night, me and him ended up sharing blankets and stuff in the tent. We cuddled all night, he held my hand a bit and rubbed my back. I think the kid is just really confused. My guess is that he doesn't want to end his long relationship (although he's not happy) for me, since he doesn't know if we would end up working out. He's told me he still has feelings for me and stuff. I just don't know what to do. I know I can't mess around with a guy with a girlfriend (you don't have to tell me, I know). I just can't get the kid off of my mind. If I don't talk to him, I go crazy. I haven't liked someone this much in a really long time. He is going to my school next year, and his school is like a week from being over. So I'm kind of hoping that once he doesn't have to see her and her friends everyday (When he dumped her, half his school hated him), he will be more open to other options. I'm not going to expect anything, because I don't want to get my hopes up, but still... (& if it helps, he's only been back with her for 2 weeks)
So What do I do? What is up with him?
This situation is driving me crazy. Any input would be great. Thank you for reading, and sorry it was so long =)
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*sigh* girl i know what your going through, it happens like every year, but listen to this, if this guy is back with her and isnt happy, then whats it about huh? is it because she probably gives him you know what? And say if you guys go out, what if he starts hangin with another girl later on? so do what i do. When you guy hang out..be distant...when you talk to him, look him in the eyes, but dont smile. Make him think, "whats wrong" dont be up his ass. Be a bit distant, and wen you guys hand out again, ask him how him and his grl are doing, and if he replies, " not so good" Tell him, and be strait out " then why are you wit her...wats the point of being with sumone ur unhappy with??? move on...your not gonna be tied to her...so just let it go...and if you have feelings for me...then lets test this out...but you cant be with someone if she makes you unhappy..." something like that, im trying okay...but try not to show so much affection around him..make him want to die for you...do u understand sweetie?
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First and foremost you have to remember that you're only getting one side of the story as far as his relationship goes. If he's the one who's being the not so nice guy in the relationship it's not like he will just admit it to you and tell you that at the risk you'd no longer feel the same way about him anymore.
To me though it just seems he is very confused so all I can really say to you is to be careful as far as how things go with you and him. If he does decide to dump her eventually then I would suggest, as before, taking things very slowly so as to give him a chance to get over her (I think it was more he hadn't gotten over her than anything else which is why he gave her that second chance). And as I said before too, you don't actually know the other side of the story so for all you know it may not be that his gf is the bad one in the relationship. Once that does happen though then by all means go for it and see how things turn out. It's a good thing to hear that you know what you're doing though as far as going for someone who already has a gf and such goes.
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