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girls treat me like im stupid
There's these so called "popular" or "cool" girls in my school, who think they are superior to people that aren't "popular" like them. I can't describe how they treat me as mean, because it isn't exactly, they kind of treat me like a dumb and use me as a way to have a good laugh with each other. For example:
Girl: (In a exagerrated way) Hi Lily!!!!!
Me: Hi..
Girl: Come on do a cheer for us! Do a split!
(This is because they know I do cheerleading)
Girls: What are you reading JACKIE??
ME: A magazine
Girls: Watch out jackie we're coming to get you! (THey both run at me and one of them proceeds to slap my back.)
They are obviously very dumb people. I admit in the beggining of the year, I used to give into them and act dumb back like they wanted (i dont know why though!). Now, i'm starting to try to stand up for myself. Like yesterday I said when the girl asked me to do a cheer REPEADTEDLY "Can you seriously stop? Seriously, it's really annoing." I feel REALLY angry when they do these things. Does anyone have any ways to show them i'm smarter than them? I just don't want to ignore it, I kind of want them to get embarrased and make them shut up.
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Ok, first you need to get into the mind of a stuck up cheerleader snobby "I am better than you" highschool girl.You want to nail them hit them with their own game. They need to understand that you dont speak the moron language that they do. Here are some things that I did in school to get them off my back.
Them:Why do you dress like that?
Me: Because, i refuse to dress like you.
Them: Why?
Me: Because then people might mistake me for being an idiot.
Or you come up to them and make THEM look dumb. Do a valley girl impression when you walk by them, that always pisses them off.
But the best tactic is to hit them where it hurts. See these girls think they are better than everyone not just you. So if you defend yourself be sure that you are around a few of their friends, and if you can have one of yours by you too. Back up is always good.
Tease them about needing to spend 4 hours in the bathroom just to make themselves look like crap. And tell them how pitiful it is that they need to rag on you to keep their self esteem high.
Or when they tease you making you feel stupid. Agree with them in the sense of..."Thanks for telling me that, God what would i do without you, i am going to go tell everyone how smart you are. You came up with that yourself? Wow, your parents must be proud."
If they attack you, your appearence , or if they say something to make you look stupid...just keep agreeing with sarcasm, sometimes being a bitch is great. I mean come on, if you were stupid you would be hanging out in their crowd right. Make sure they understand that. ;)
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Well, the best revenge is to be happy without them ruining your life. You made the bad choice to play dumb and they took you up on it. It became their game and you willingly played along. Maybe you thought they would become friends if you gave in. Now that you realize you are making a fool of yourself, you stopped. Good. The next step is to take responsibility for your part in this game and not shift all the anger onto these silly girls. You are a bit angry at yourself, right? Now take a deep breath and forgive yourself. You have learned a valuable lesson and you won't be anyone's fool again. The way to control your anger is to control your perception of who is really in control. If you perceive them as a threat and decide they are powerful enough to keep putting you down, then you will remain the angry victim. If you remain still in your very core of being and center yourself in the knowledge that they cannot harm you unless you give them permission to, then you will have the power and not the anger. Anger is not power. Anger will weaken the one who holds onto it. You are above it. Tell them that you are bored with the silly games and that you can't take them seriously as long as they continue with the immaturity, but that you would be okay with having a normal conversation with them when they feel up to it.
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