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mom part 99
Last Wednesday was my moms 81st birthday. I AM GOING TO BE 52. She knows that I buy a lot of jewelry each item in every color due to the fact that if you dont buy them you will never see it again. She has even told me the jewelry is gorgeous and you cannot tell the difference if it is 99 cents for a piece from Lord & Taylors, Bloomingdales, etc. Also before her birthday she told me to keep her out of my buying the jewelry - she told me that if I like it that is all what counts. Any way now she is screaming at me that last week I spent too much money on the jewelry. How could I buy $50 worth. Today she started to scream at me: what is the difference if you wont buy one piece of jewelry for $50 or all those pieces for $50. And why did you put all your bills onto your charge card - you still have to pay it. You will dig yourself into a hole; OK FIRST OF ALL I AM NOT GOING TO GIVE UP BUYING AS MUCH JEWELRY AS I DO; AND SHOULD I JUST IGNORE HER AND BUY WHAT I WANT. (KEEP IN MIND SHE DOES PAY THE RENT, AND THE ELECTRICITY BUT I DO GIVE HER MONEY FROM MY PAYCHECK). ALSO KEEP IN MIND SHE ALSO SAID THIS BECAUSE THIS MONTH MY CHECKBOOK DID NOT BALANCE AND SHE SAW MY MASTERCARD BILL WHICH HAS ALL MY CONSOLIDATED BILLS ON IT PLUS OTHER THINGS MINUS THE JEWELRY BECAUSE I PAY BY CASH
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At this point in your life, you should be enjoying the time left with your aging mother. Don't waste precious time fighting about silly stuff. She is trying to help you get a hold of your spending with her nagging, and probably really cares about you and your future without her there to help you someday. As long as you are living under her roof, try to keep the peace and respect her. You are too old to still be rebelling against your mom and need to learn to see the depth of your emeshment with her. I suggest you give the jewelry a break and find some new hobbies. You can start by reading books about gaining your independence from your parents, forgiveness and finding your identity. This could begin a new exciting change not just in your relationship, but for your life in all areas.
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You are too old to even need to be caring about what your mother says.
Do what you want.
If she's going to complain about it - tell her that she's probably spent a lot more money on something a lot more stupid.
But if you really want to cut back - instead of buying one in every color, buy just the ones you like.
(Truthfully, no one cares where you get your jewelry. A lot of people don't even notice it.)
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