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I really like my best friend!!!!
Hi. I read your colume and you get alot of positive feedback so I was wonderring if you could help me.
Im 13/F. Ever since october I started liking this guy named Rhodri. He kept my secrets and was always there for me. He was a great friend. Now I like him alot and he flirts with me but I don't know if he likes me. Im afraid to tell him because anyone that has so far he doesn't like and he'd start ignoring them and I dont want that happening to me. This week has been great. I can remember back to Wednsday. We hung out at recess together and he practiced triple jump and I measured everyones jumps. Each time he jumped he smiled at me. Then I was laying down in the grass later on and he came over and was poking me. I laughed and he ran away only to come back and try to jump over me. It didnt work and he kicked me in the head but we laughed it off. When the bell rang we spent the walk inside poking eachother and he hit me on the head so i hit him back and we began chasing eachother. He also loves to scare me. Then yesterday, we ended up wrestling for a baseball and he accidently tripped me and helped me up. He kept nudinging me and gave me high fives. Today, he had wings in his hair and we bugged him about it and he grabbed my arm and made me touch them as a joke. We sold chips together and we shared a pop and a bag of chips. Also after a while he jumped up and started karate chopping me and told me to fight back. And we did for a while. He also tried to push me off my chair as a joke and was mimicking what I said. Afterwards I told him I hated him and he was like "I Love You Too" We were also chasing eachother all recess. He spends alot of his time with me but I was talking to my best friend (who doesnt kno i like him)and she was like "Rhodri told me who he likes" I guessed every girl other than me and she said no to them all. Then my friend Jenna said "Its because he likes Mary!" and she replyed "No I asked him that today and he said no way"
I really like him but I dont think he likes me. What should I do? should i just avoid him until I stop liking him? thank you
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Don't avoid him. He seems like a really great guy, and you should keep staying with him. You don't know that he doesn't like you. Hang out with him more, and keep acting how you are now. Flirt, and be really friendly and all. Also, try and get some one-on-one time in. You can ask him to go to the movies with you and some friends, but deliberately pick a day that you know your friends can't come(don't make it obvious to ANYONE that youre doing this, though. Choose a day that your friends have just mentioned once or twice not being able to go.) Or walk to his classes with him or something. See if he acts the same then. If he acts kind of shy, then that's probably good. If he acts the same, thats good too. If he kind of acts like he wants to not be there, then he probably doesn't like you. But you never know.
Set a time period of, say, two months. If he doesn't make a move or you find out for sure that he doesn't like you(aka he tells you or he rejects you; don't trust an outside source) by the end of that time period, then you should try to maybe get over him. But don't stay away from him. He sounds really great, and you should try to stay friends with him.
As for getting over him(IF it comes to that), here's one thing someone told me: choose one guy(you don't have to like him, but make it someone you see semi-often. like, you have a few classes with him or something). Just concentrate on him. Notice what kind of shoes he wears, if he got a haircut, and all that. Devote your attention to him. Of course you should still try and be friends with Rhodri, but don't treat him like you like him. But pay attention to that one other guy, and you'll find yourself thinking about him less.
Hope I helped.
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