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best friends
okay, so i dont go to your school and i dont know you but i saw you give really good advice.. so my best friend in the world i really popular, so am i... but i never feel as good as her, and i always feel like people are trying to take her away from me... people say like youre obsessed w/ her, she says i'm not but i wonder if she thinks i am or something, and i dont know how to not be worried, i dont want to be annoying to her or anything, but i'm really unsure of how to like be her best friend and not be scared that people are gonna take her away from me.. please just help!
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Hey!
Well thanks for the complitment, I don't if I'm that good at giving advice, but I try hard to help people.
I've never been in your situation before, but I can understand how you feel. Sometimes people feel that way and they don't even know why, like it's just a worry they have for no real reason, but sometimes there is a real reason. So the first thing to do I guess would be to figure out what that reason is, if there is one. Like have you lost friends in the past, and so that gives you the fear that you will lose more friends? Because if it's something that is liek underlying and in your subconcious, then it may be harder to get over than you would think.
If it's not that big of a deal, then just start by when you're hanging out with multiple friends and your best friend, try and branch off and talk mostly to the other friends, like don't igonre your friend just try and talk to other people.
Then you have to stop feeling liek she's better than you. Thats a tough one, it's more of a self confidence issue, you just need to know that you are an awesome person, and yeah shes awesome too, but you're better and you know it. Don't go by how many friends you have or how great your relationships are with all these people, just go by yourself, and how great you are.
Remember, that if she is a really great friend, she isnt going to let people take her away from you, and if she does, shes not as great of a friend as you would think. I think that it's all about how you think about the siuation, if you just try and focus on the now, and try and stop obsessing (which I know can be hard, I have major OCD) about what may or may not happen, then you will have a better quality of life. If you're worried about losing this friend then branch out and meet new people make more than one best friend, then you always have a back up plan, and your friend will be feeling the way you feel rather than the other way around, if those don't work let me know and I'll try and think of some other ways to help you solve this problem.
Thank you for asking me your question, I'm glad I look like that type of person, because I strive so hard to be that way and it's good that you noticed. I hope I answered your question, but if I didn't feel free to ask another. Good luck and remember you're an awesome person, and friendships don't make you who you are, they only shape the person you'll become.
Love ya,
Angie91
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