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He's older but I fancy him
I'm 17/f, and I've really formed this crush on one of my friends, who's unfortunatley 22. I know him through work and I've been friends with him since August. Well lately, everytime he sees me he hugs me and lifts me off the ground, and half the time he kisses me on the cheek. He constantly jokes around about "ravaging" me, and calling me "sweet" and "lovely."
The other day we were walking down the street and he grabbed my hand and was like "let's pretend we're going to the prom, darling." and he was joking around and laughing with me about it. He kept kissing my hand/cheek/forehead.
He keeps doing stuff like this, but I'm not sure if he's just being his crazy self, or if he has a thing for me.
I'm afraid that if I ask him, he'll just be like "you're a sweet kid, but I was just joking around" and that would be mortifying for me.
Any advice on what to do in this situation??
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hey it sounds like hes really into you. But alot of guys flirt so he could be just being friendly. If hes doing this all the time then i think hes into you. I mean he is older than you but i dont think that matters and if that doesnt matter to him then he might ask you out. I wouldnt ask him anything because if he doesnt like you like that then that would be hurtful to you. So if he likes you then im sure he will eventually ask you out. I would just hold bak the quesions for now and see what happens. Ok well goodluck with eerything ihope things work out the way you want them too! if ya need anymore help you can write me in my inbox!
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It definitely sounds like he's flirting with you.
Of course, some guys are flirty and don't necessarily mean anything by it. Does he do this with other women that he's close to? If he's naturally very playful and "crazy" with lots of people it can be very hard to tell when the playfulness has progressed into flirtacious playfulness. If on the other hand he's just like this with you, or behaves with you in a way that is significantly more playful and flirtatious than he does with others, then I would probably read something into it.
That said, human behaviour is hard to read, and there's a chance that you and I are both wrong in reading his signals this way. For this reason, I'd avoid asking him directly if he likes you. This puts him on the spot and might embarass him or make him just brush off his behaviour as nothing - after all, he might not be 100% sure how he feels. Flirting is both a way of indicating interest in somebody and exploring our own feelings and how we click with a person.
I can't really tell from your question whether you are interested in persuing things with this guy or not. You say that you have a crush on him, but I don't know if that means you want to be with him as you note yourself the age difference.
Either way, I think you can respond to his flirting in a way that will give you answers about how he feels and beging to change the relationship in a direction that makes you happy without having to have an embarassing "do you like me?" conversation. It's all about how you respond to his behaviour. If you like him, follow his lead and be playful and flirty back.
If you don't want to be with him despite your crush, it's a little harder as you'll probably enjoy the flirting and want to flirt back as you have a crush on him, but you should respond in a way that is friendly but doesn't encourage him. You can still be friendly and laugh and joke with him, but don't let him pick you up and carry you around or similar things like that. It may take a while to train him out of the behaviour, but if you don't give him any indications that you want him to behave that way he should stop.
All the best.
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