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Painful Sex
I'm 17, and have had sex with my boyfriend whom I love very much, 6 times... and each time, it's been so painful that I end up crying. The first time we had sex was painful because it was my first time, but I was expecting that and also to bleed a bit, which I did, although I read somewhere that if you have been using tampons frequently that this would be unlikely (i've been using tampons for years without any problems)?
Anyway, the actual penetration is ok, it's just that once his penis has got to a certain point inside me that it starts to become excruciatingly painful... It's like a burning/ripping sensation... My boyfriend thinks that I don't want to have sex with him and it'd an excuse, but it's not, it's just that it's so painful I physically can't carry on!!! What should I do???
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First, stop having sex. Something clearly isn't okay.
Sex can be very uncomfortable for the first few times, including bleeding, regardless of whether or not you've used tampons. It is normal for a certain level of discomfort, but what you are describing goes beyond the norm.
You'll need to see a gyno (which you'd need to see anyway, as you've started having sex). She will be able to look into your vagina and see what the issue is with 'the certain point' that he cannot get past. She will also be able to offer advice and information.
This might be as simple as saying you need more foreplay or some added lubricant from a bottle, but you could be one of a few women who need treatment for this issue.
Seeing a gyno is a definite, but what isn't definite is whether you should carry on having sex with your boyfriend, even once the issue is resolved. If you are in so much pain you are crying, and your boyfriend refuses to believe in that pain, I would suggest things aren't quite as great as they could be. This could be that you haven't shared with him how excruciating things are, or that he isn't hearing you.
This might be more of a longterm issue than the actual sex thing is - if you see a gyno, that should be able to be resolved. I wish you the very best.
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