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Good Friend?
Is this being a good friend?
- When your friend is sick at home, and you're at school, you call between every class to check on them, & when you get home.
- Make them an easter basket & drop it at their door.
- Wish them good luck on tests.
- Bring them donut holes when they're stranded at home, because they're ankles swollen.
These are just the bare minimum of things I do for my best guy friend, I'm a (16/f) and it just doesn't seem like he notices. Am I being a good friend, or should I try harder?
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Hey,
i can see where your coming from.
You seem to be a lovely friend, i would love to have a excellent friend like yourself.
I think you don't even need to try harder with this male.
Look its a normal male thing they dont notice when a female does something good for them.
For example with my boyfriend i pay alot for him and he never seems to thank me.
If your very upset by this and feel the need he has to re-pay you or thank you in anyway then the only solution is to talk to him.
Tell him what you feel, you never know he mite be very thankful deep down just isn't the type of guy who shows it.
I hope this has helped.
Love Julia.
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get to know him. make him laugh. thats all that really counts. you dont have to go out of your way alot to be a good friend.. i mean he might just think your nice by doing that but thats not a friend does.. well its one of the things, but its more like.. emotional.
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I hate it when people (friends) say that. It's not only annoying but it makes you feel you have to prove that you do care and I don't think friends should have to prove themselves.
Personally, if I had someone doing all that for me I would be verymuch flattered because I don't know many people who would do that for me. I'm not actually sure why you are playing this game of his either. If you have done all that and he has not noticed then chances are you cared to start with and he was just oblivious to it. I would even think that he was just looking to get attention orwas on a downer and decided to lash out at you by saying you don't care etc etc.
I think you should stop lavishing him with all this attention to start with because that is very unfair to you. It's like a guy telling his gf to prove she loves him by sleeping with him. Different circumstances but the same principles I think. Have a chat with him and tell him he seems to have not noticed all the extra attention you have been giving him as of lately and point out that you do care about him very much as a friend and you are there for him but you won't be chasing after him like that to prove you do care when you always did anyway.
If you really didn't care then my guess would be you'd have just told him to hell with you right from the start instead of trying to prove you do care.
=Ammo=
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You are being an absolutely great friend. You shouldn't take what he said to heart too much. If he doesn't notice, you can explain that you're doing all these things for him and tell him that it hurt you (if it actually DID hurt you) that he said you dont care. He probably didn't mean for it to go this far. But overall, you are being an excellent friend.
~~Musician
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Well yes you are being a good friend. But another thing is that you might come off as a bit obsessive.
The reason he might not "notice" is because he doesn't know what to do when someone is that nice to him.
If I were you, I would still be nice to him and be a good friend but I wouldn't go out of my way just for him.
Do you like him?
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You're defenetly being a great friend. I'm sure he's very thankful for the things that you do but maybe he just doesn't show it the way you'd like him too. Don't try any harder to be a good friend because you're already a great one & I'm sure he appriciates everything that you do for him.
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