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Im so confused
so this guy and I went to the movies... he broke up with his girlfriend of 1 1/2 years not too long ago and I broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago [Please keep in mind that I am not really looking to be in a serious relationship right away.]
He was basically flirting with me the entire night...and then once we got to my house we sat in the driveway for like a hour just talking. when i went to get out of the car I went to give him a kiss on the cheek and he moved away saying "Don't do that" when I asked why he said "because I dont want to hurt you"
So later he sent me a text message that said "I'm so sorry" and I was like "For what?" and he said "I just don't want to hurt you...I seem to do that"
I really like him. He gives me butterflies...
I feel like we are kinda in the same position so I know how he feels...We both dont want to get hurt again and we dont want to hurt someone else like we've been hurt before...
I'm not sure what to do....I'm afraid if I IM him he will be like "Oh god shes stalking me" but then if I dont i feel like he will be all "Oh man, now she wont even talk to me"
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hay
you can tell that he wants to be more then friends but he doesnt want to hurt you or get hurt again. thats is probably why he acted like that & coz hes not ready for a seriouse relationship just like you. well i think you should IM him so he doesnt get the impression your not talking to him but dont IM him heaps or too much then he ewont get impression that your stalking him.
you will work it out sonner or later
hope that helped xoxo
sally <3
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You two should definitely attempt to have a relationship. You can't be afraid of hurting other people for the rest of your lives. It's obvious to me that you want to have a chance with him. You really like him. It's good to be concerned about each other, but not to this degree. You are willing to risk getting hurt to have a relationship with him and he probably feels the same way about you. Don't be more concerned about him that he is himself. If he's willing to take the risk and both of you want to, nothing should stop you. If he wants to risk getting hurt, that's his choice to make. Just like taking the risk yourself is your choice to make. Let him know that you would risk getting hurt to have a chance with him because you like him that much. Don't promise that you won't hurt each other because you can't see what's in the future. He's heard the promise before and it hasn't been kept. Hearing it again will only hurt him because he'll connect it to the past. Both of you have grown a lot through negative experiences in relationships. Those negative experiences in the past can only make the future better. You can also connect and bond with each other through them because it's something that you have in common. Be optimistic about your next relationship (which will hopefully be with this guy) because it can only be better than any past relationships that you have had. This guy seems like a really caring person that you could have a great time with. Don't miss your chance with him! You deserve to be with someone as nice and caring as him this time. Good luck. :)
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