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help!!
ok so i live with my dad aunt and grandme my dad is sick and my grandma is to old to raise us so my aunt does well me and my aunt like practically hate eech other!! like im the middle child and my brother and sis are constantly getting in truoble and my aunt doesnt get on to them but if i was todo that stuff my but would be torn to pieces(not abused or ne thing like that ) but it seems she always expects more out of me thatn them!! well i told her about it and she was just liike im the parent not you !! and she doesnt listen to me and tells me she wants to kno wut is goin on in my life but wen i tell her she doesnt listen or critisizes me all the time about wut i tellher i just dont kno wut to do !! any advice!!?
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Well if your dad is too sick to talk to and get involed in this crisis, and your grandma is too old too...
You have three choices if possible, talk to your dad condifdentally about the aunt. Talk to your grandma if she has any influence on the aunt.
And ask you aunt for a serious sit-down talk about how you feel and do not put blame on her and put her on the defensive, but just how you feel about it all. Let her feel for you at this point.
It can't hurt. She can listen if it's an arranged sit-down. You'll have her undivided attention.
If she knows how you feel, she might try changing for the better and resolve the issue. She might be unaware of it, because she doesn't want you to feel badly. She certainly has to repsect your thoughtfulness.
If all else fails, talk to a counselor at school. That's what they are there for.
You must be the oldest and that's why she expects more from you that you can give of her expectations.
Some people are just mean and nasty. Some are just misinformed and ignorant. She might be misinformed.
Try a school counselor first and see what he/she suggests. It's worth a shot. Then you have the verification for him/her that something should be done. And a plan.
Your father should get involved regardless of how sick he is. He should speak up in your defense.
In the meantime-- don't rock the boat. Talk to a counselor. And don't get the auntie mad and don't you get mad until you do talk to a counselor.
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