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thanx
i know that the reality of the situation is that he does care about me and all but doesnt want a gf. truth be told i have settled for only being friends. if he wants to take it a step further than that is completely up to him because i dont want to pressure anything or turn this into some awkward relationship. besides this the last year im actually gonna be with him. after graduation we are going to different high schools but i will definately keep in touch with him. im gonna miss him a lot but i know i will move on when i meet new ppl in high school. i mean i dont really expect much out of him in a bf and gf type way. he doent even know that i like him. which brings me to my next question. do you think i should tell him how i feel? or would that just be setting myself up for regection again? also do you have A I M? if so we can chat sometime. thanx again you are awesome and im glad to see that there are such great advise givers out there =)
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Thankyou! You sound very rational in your thinking about the situation. I think it is still up to you if and when you tell him, but if you think you can say what you want to without worrying about a response then do it. The key is to say what you feel without putting pressure on him or asking for anything in return...make it like giving him a gift, not a trade. If you can do this, then you will have unloaded the burden of what ifs, and holding on to the regret of words unspoken. I think even a little rejection won't hurt the friendship at this point as long as you are very confident and willing to tell him in a way that asks for nothing in return. One phrase would be to say something like, "I value our friendship so much that I would never want to lose it, but I also want you to know that I think you are going to make some girl really happy someday and if you need someone, I could be that girl." Whatever you say, do it with him alone without making too big a deal about it. Wait for a casual opportunity and try to say it with as little drama as possible...you could even be cute about it and flirty, almost like you are teasing about it...this could get the message across without having to bare your soul and be too vulnerable. Good Luck!
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