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should i ask about STD/STIs
Im a virgin, she is not. I can say that within the next month or so we will become sexually active. She is on birth control and I am not thrilled, but willing to use a condom,
in order to protect myself i would like to make sure she has no STDs/STIs. How can i ask her about this without making her feel awkward. I dont want to wait untill it's to late, but i dont want to sound like i know and expect her to have sex with me.
better safe then sorry, and hey there is no harm in asking. but when is a good time/situation, also any ideas on how to pop the question ?
thx ahead
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This is a very difficult situation.. i think that you should tell her that you think it is necessary and she would probably want you to go and get checked out too. Then the two of you can go together. hope i helped
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OK first off yes you should ask her.. BUT do not ask her how many partners shes been with. This may make her feel weirdly! its a private question. you can ask her has she had unprotected sex and was she checked.. And tell her you just want to kno for safety if she has any.. and tell her you love her.. you just want to be safe. she should understand if you are ready to have sex with her you should b close enough to talk about personal things
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In short, absolutely you can and SHOULD ask her. If the two of you are connected and comfortable enough with one another to have sex, that means it encompasses everything that comes along side sex. While birth control is effective if used properly, using a condom is a great idea to add to that. Next time the two of you are alone, just calmly and maturing say something along the lines of: "I want to ask you something, and in no way do I mean this offensively, I just want to make sure we discuss everything before" This way you say it politely and get your question out. Ask whatever info you may need: How many partners, unprotected?, tested?, etc. Nine times out of ten, asking is going to be a good thing. It's going to show her you respect her and are also aware and responsible. Good luck. :)
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