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Psychologist
What do you people think of a psychologist (male) who acts more like a friend than a therapist? Here are examples: (1) he tells you to give up a friend you like because your friend gives you bad advice: (2) you tell him a story about how a customer loved the jacket you wore and the customer told you they know you take a small but the customer wants to know if the jacket comes in an extra large and you tell the male therapist what the customer asked and the male therapist starts to guess your clothing size; (3) you tell the male therapist you had problems with an exboss and the therapist instead of helping you cope with this boss, the male therapist tells you the exboss doesnt like you.
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Sometimes I think therapists and psychologists are more lost and or sicker than their patients. Having said that, there are also many who are brilliant and beyond helpful. I'm not so sure where this guy ranks though.
Alot of therapists/psychologists like sessions to be informal. They want to know about you as a whole and your interests etc to figure out how best to help you open up about what is bothering you. Often they will take an approach where they act like your friend just to get you to talk freely.
This is far from unusual at all. It's a widespread tactic that works for them to get more to slip out of you in the session that needs to be fixed.
I'm not sure why your therapist would listen to a story about compliments you received and then guess your size. That sounds a bit weird to me but then I wasn't there for the conversation and reaction.
In the final instance the therapist is just stating the obvious that your boss dislikes you. Again that doesn't help your problem unless he told you our boss is a toxic person for you to be around and to look for another job. That's helpful the other thing you said he said is not.
If the guy is making you uncomfortable and not helping you at all I would end the sessions. Ask your family doctor who they recommend you see as they may know someone who is more skilled and or professional than he is.
If something is making you feel weird about seeing this therapist trust your gut instinct to remove yourself from the situation. Therapists are a dime a dozen but it's difficult to find a good one as they don't have to be doctors to practice.
Perhaps it would be best depending upon what issues you are having trouble with to ask for referal to a psychiatrist or an adolescent psychologist who your family doctor trusts. You cannot go wrong there.
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Is this counselor/therapist actually helping you in your life or not? If not, then end it and find a new one. It is that simple. Psychologists are just human and people sometimes don't click even in a professional relationship. If his approach puts you off, then you might tell him. Ask, "How is that helping me?" Tell him clearly that you are not getting what you came for. Of course, it could be the case that this psychologist really does have a method to his madness and may have specific reasons for his comments and questions that we don't know. All you can do is be open with him, and if he does not put you at ease, then find someone you trust. There is nothing wrong with a second opinion anyway.
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I think they need to be reported because they're not doing their job properly. They're supposed to help you. They're not supposed to be your friend, or your mentor. They're merely there to help you find solutions & to listen to you, not to tell you what to do.
It's okay to have a relationship with them as in you like them because of the way they help, but a personal relationship such as an intimate or a friendly one would be a little weird, and against conduct as I believe.
Find yourself a new pyschologist.
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