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Alright, so my boyfriend has to move in about a month, and he got really upset when he found out. I asked him why and he said the only reason was because he was afraid of losing me. He started to act really sweet and always make me feel like I was his number one priority, like when we first started dating. Now he found out he isn't moving that far, so he is almost acting like his old self, having a sort of 'I don't care' attitude. I know he loves me because he was so concerned about leaving me, but how do I get him to realize that even if he doesn't go that far there is still that chance of losing me? I mean, I just want him to act that way all the time not just when there are threats against our relationship.
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Don't be selfish. You can't expect that much out of relationships. It's nice when stuff like this does happen and it will happen again sometime, but to expect it all the time is not realistic. You know how much he cares about you from the way he acted when he thought he'd lose you. It would take way too much effort and energy on his part to act like that all the time. It wouldn't be him because it would be forced. Keep the memory of the times when he is really sweet to you in your head. He loves you just the same then as he does now. Who cares if he shows it, you need to trust that it's still there. If you want a guy to show it all the time every day, this guy isn't the guy for you. It's just not who he is. Come to think of it, if that's what you really want from relationships there are very very few guys out there for you. When you love someone, you can't just love their individual characteristics. You have to love that person as a collective whole. You may not like when he does or does not do something, but you've got to love him anyway. This is a favorite quote of mine - "Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have." Keep that in mind and try not to have such high expectations for your boyfriend or you may lose him. He is a great catch. He cares so much about you. Much more than most other guys would. That's what matters. Not how he shows it. Good luck.
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Well, this happened to me a couple days ago.. You need to warn him a couple times, just be honest with him. Sometimes guys are so oblivious to something right in their face and they need to be told. If and when you do warn him, if he doesnt listen then mention that you two need a break and see how he reacts. Just the feeling seriously losing you for good should make him realize. Believe me, i just did this not too long ago...So, i would try it!
Goood luck
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