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hey thanks for your answer
it makes alot of sense, but say its always me calling first, or it has to be me to text him first that way he calls me.. i tried to stop that for a while and he thought i was losing intrest.. i cant win!
so how do i turn the tables instead of it always having to be me to make all the effort?
but thanks for your answer!
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Sure I can help you with that. It might sound weird or uncomfortable to do so, but you need to confront him about it. Go about things by saying how you feel about the situation, and let him know that you would like for him to call and text you first more often. For me, I wouldn't have done that if it was never pointed out to me.
I can see why when you stopped calling first he thought you were losing interest. If you talk to him about it and try to make better plans for each other for phone calling, then obviously he won't think your losing interest. It is actually the opposite - you are gaining interest, but you don't feel like your getting it back. Explain to him how you think things should work out between the two of you, and give him a chance to say how he feels about it too. If he agrees with you or not, ask him to try it out first for you. He might be stubborn about it and not try, or say he is and then not call/text. If thats the case, then I don't see how any other, even bigger problems, would be able to be solved and worked out with out cooperation.
It might sound a bit confusing and complicated, but just talk to him about it and look for something you can both agree on. Maybe taking turns would help? Say you call first on Friday, then you won't call him back until he calls you back whenever he does, then you can call him back whenever. Think of ideas that would help both of you. Most importantly, be patient - guys aren't too great at this phone stuff, because it really does take time to get used to it. If you need other ideas let me know, I hope that helped and good luck.
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