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should i try and not love him anymore?
Theres this boy, Jacob. He's one of my best friends, and I'm in love with him. I really am, don't tell me I'm too young or anything. But I don't know if he likes me that way or not. he did earlier this year, but I don't know anymore. And my friend likes him, too. I've cried over him so many times, because i thought that he liked her. I was really upset, but I dont know, as long as he was happy then i wasn't too sad. I was afraid that she'd hurt him or something. But anyway, its been so much pain and hurt. should I just try and see if I can stop loving him? Is love worth all the tears and pain?
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If he liked you before, the feelings that he had for you will never completely go away especially if you two never did anything about your feelings for each other. Just because your friend likes him doesn't mean he likes her back. The fact that your friend likes him doesn't matter at all. I mean, shouldn't she like him? He's such a great guy, right? You think he's the best. Shouldn't every girl think that and be absolutely in love with him like you are? Who cares if she likes him! What matters is who he likes -- and it's probably you! You say that he has caused you all this hurt and pain. Well you haven't even dated him yet. You haven't even tried anything. Your heart hasn't been broken. There has been no rejection. There is absolutely no reason to try to stop loving him. Keep loving him as much as you can and actually do something about it! Soon! Ask him to go out with you. Ask him if his feelings are the same as yours. It might be hard to bring it up and a little embarassing and awkward at first, but isn't it worth it if it means getting a chance with him? Give it a shot. If you give up you'll regret it for the rest of your life. If things don't work out between you it can't hurt any worse than it does now and at least you'll know you tried. Giving up is the absolute worst thing you can do right now. Don't worry about screwing up your friendship with him. You're not meant to be friends right now if something better could happen. Teen relationships are always much more beneficial in the present and helpful to you in the future than teen friendships. Friends will come and go, but your past boyfriends will stay with you forever and always have a special place in your heart no matter what happens. Who's to say that you can't easily be friends afterwards either? Lots of people do it. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that his feelings for you are the same as yours for him! :)
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i have been in a somewhat similar situation and you have to find out 3 things: would your best friend be upset with you if you went out with jacob ,if jacob likes your best friend or you , and you have to figure out who means more to you, your best friend or jacob. If Jacob likes your best friend then you have to stop loving him now... your just going to end up really hurt and disapointed, you would need to erase him out of your life...its the only way. However if he likes you then it just depends on who you choose, bestfriend or boyfriend. Its up to you there but if i were you maybe i would have a neutral friend find out who he likes or if you have a s/n make up a fake one and i-m him... this usually works ..hope i helped good luck!
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Don't give up on him. I have learned that the hard way so that's I'm telling you not to. If you friend likes him cool, but that shouldn't stop you from liking him too. You need to call or IM him or get a hold of him someway and talk to him about this. It might sound weird but if you really tell him how you feel, you never know he might feel the same way. You can't just stop loving someone what you have liked for a while just not possible, even if you try it won't work and I have learned that. Love is worth all the tears and pain =)
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