My "best friend" has been extremely mean and rude to me and many of my other friends. Plus, she's trying to pressure us all into drinking and stuff, which is something we do NOT feel comfortable at all doing. I talked to my mom and I thought about it, and I think it would be best for me to not be her friend. The problem is, one of my friends told her that I was mad (Even though I asked her not to...) at her and now she keeps texting me saying, "DO YOU HATE ME?!" and stuff, but I've just been turning off my phone. The friend who told her also has been telling me that my "best friend" has been crying a lot because of it. All I said in return was, "Well, I've cried many times because of things she has said or done to me..." and then my friend said that I have no soul. So, um, does that even make sense? My plan was to just be nice to the girl (my "best friend") at school and then outside of school, I just didn't have to hang out with her. Now I feel really bad about it even though I know that I don't want to be friends with this girl. Next time she texts me or calls me or something, what should I say? And is there some ideas of ways that I can calm down about this? (I'm just really, really stressed out about it...)
Additional info, added Sunday March 25 2007, 8:03 pm: Examples of how she's been mean/rude: She invites people over right in front of my face without inviting me and I've talked to her about it, but she turned everything around, refused to say sorry, and I ended up saying sorry for some reason instead. She talks about me all the time to my other friends and tells them that I call them a bitch and stuff, but I don't. She calls me a bitch to pretty much anyone who will listen, starts rumors about me, etc. She started a rumor to get one of my other best friends and her boyfriend to break up, which is exactly what happened...they broke up and she cried for two months because of it. She makes fun of me and some of my friends in front of our faces and she has done many, many other things.. Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship? IThasJUSTbegun answered Sunday March 25 2007, 9:24 pm: Omgosh i had a friend exactly like her, she ould do the same exact things and she actully stole my boyfriend away from me! So yes i advise you to not be friends with her, she shouldnt of done those mean things to you, now she pays. Yeah you might feel bad, but i bet you things will be so much easier without her, less drama. For the next time she calls you just be calm about it and say "I've had enough, you havnt been respecting me and my friends at all, so i'm done with it." and then just hang up. And to calm down about you feeling bad just think of all the mean things she has done to you. I'm sure you have a lot of better friends then her.
carayotie answered Sunday March 25 2007, 9:13 pm: I've gone through similar best friend issues, and the truth is: if she can't see what she is doing is hurting you, then she isn't worth being labeled as your best friend. A best friend is someone who is there for you, cares for you and most definietly shouldn't be treating you like that. If she refuses to listen to you when you tell her whats going on, then just totally cut her off. (I know that sounds reallllyy harsh, but what good is it if she's always making you upset?).
As for my best friend --she's now my ex bestfriend and to tell you the truth, I've never been happier, sure I miss her at times but my days are filled with little to no stress or negativity.
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