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going crazy cuz of him...
okay..so this has been my problem for 2 months now. me and my ex broke up 2 months ago. i wanna forget about him but it seems like i cant. like i mean i try liking another guy to keep him off my mind but..he just shows up again. i know he's going to stay in my heart because he was my first kiss and love. after me he already has 2 exs and now a gf. but.. in my head it feels like he's rubbing his gf and his last 2 exs on my face to make me jelous but..they didnt last as long as we did..which was 2 months. my ex and i almost have the same friends and we hang out at the same place and we have 5 out 6 classes together. so its hard to get him out of my face. we try to be friends[i guess] but it doesnt work because all we do is argue or make eachother feel bad. i tired of going back to him. help me.
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This sounds so familiar.If you can't get him out of your head and hes always showing up and stuff hes suposed to be there. You don't forget your first love and kiss, it's just one of the things that will stay with you forever.Guys are like that, they will try to make you jealous by having other girlfriends. Don't let it get to you either. He probly still thinks of you and has feelings for you but he doesn't want to show it. You need to really talk to and tell him how you feel. DON'T HIDE ANYTHING. You say all you do is fight and aruge when you friends that means you two do like each other sounds weird but true, you fight with the people you most love and care about. ♥
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Don't worry, I am the best at this. I will be able to help you out, you just have to stick with me okay?
Alright so there are a lot of steps to getting over someone, and you have to do all of them before you can say it hasntbeen sucessful.
Okay, well lets start with what you already tried. You said you tried finding other guys, which is usally my third or fourth step. See what happened is you tried this step alittle too early and by trying it out of succesion it hurt you more.
So lets forget about finding another guy, just becaus he's moving on, you dont have to.
Okay, well first you have to get involved. This is a common one, but it works, that why I always suggest it. Get a job, volunteer, or join a club. Do something for someone else. Or do something that shows achievement, because then you can relate how awesome you are doing (how many hours you've volunteered or how many people you've donated cans for etc) to this situation and it turns the frown upside down.
Then friends. Well this is tough because you are friends with the same types of people, so try and find ways to hang out with your friends at places he WONT be. And if anyone brings him up say that you really just liek how it is can he come another time.
Next is "me time". Every friday night take alittle time to do what you like and relax. Dont think about him take a bubble bath and watch a sad movie. That wil bring up your self esteem, as well as let you release your feelings.
Make some goals, such as spend time with your sister, or earn enough money for an ipod. And try to find ways to make those achievable. Everyday, for each goal you achieve throw a quarter in a jar and save that money to put towards something you'll enjoy later in life. And if you go backwards in your goal, for instance getting in a fight with your sister or spend twenty bucks on a cd instead of getting close to ipod, take out a quarter.
Write about your feelings instead of saying them out loud. Tell your diary about how he almsot made you cry. This will not only help you to sort out your feelings, but it will also be a memoir of what you went through.
Last thing is getting a new guy. You dont have to date one, just pick one, and try and think about him instead of your ex. This has proven to be difficult, but this is a long ways off, so by then it may be easier.
Lastly, being friends really doenst work, so tall him this, tell him that you like him as a person, but its too hard getting over him when he's there all the time, so if he knows you'll be somewhere, can he make the effort to try and avoid you. It sounds bad, but it has to be done in order to get over him, the least about of time you have to spend with him the better, and you already have all day at school, so if you can try and avoid him outside of school thats be awesome. If you are together and he says something that bothers you bput on a fake smile and pretend he didnt say anything. If he says more stuff just calmly try and leave. Dont let what he says hurt you. And don't reply to it. Just be calm and forget he said it. He doesnt mean it and if you respond he'll just say more.
Try that and if you still need more help let me know. I have a million more tips. And I dont mind. I hope this helps a bit, and I wish you good luck, this is one of the toughest things people have to go through, and I hope that you can get through it okay. Good luck, love ya,
Angie91
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