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i have liked this guy for three years. he has a girlfriend (shes sort of my friend) and is in love with her. they have been going out since october, but the girl only likes him half as much, so i dont know if that relationship will last. at least she will be the one to break up with him.
i dont think i will ever stop liking him. i have been trying to distract myself from him by dating other guys, but i just kept on thinking of him. i was saving my first kiss for him, but i lost it last month to an ex boyfriend because i completely gave up. my ex bf made a move to kiss me, and i just thought i'm either gonna kiss someone in this life or i'm not.
this is really breaking my heart. we are buddies i guess, we dont talk much, but on some occasions we do. but i know for a fact that he does not like me. how do i deal with this? should i keep waiting for him to love me? everyone knew i liked him for the first two years, but then i told everyone i didnt, and i stopped flirting with him, staring at him, etc. if he and his gf ever break up, i will start flirting with him again, but i highly doubt i have a chance.
i know i will love him forever... i might fall in love with someone else, but i know i will still love him deep in my heart.
i am just so confused... i dont know what to do. i'm crying right now... it feels like the sad part of a love movie, yet i'm happy that i love him so much... its really hard to describe what i'm feeling right now.
help? i know its hard, but any feedback will be appreciated.
i'm 16 if that helps
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Your feelings are probably more intense because you can't have him. The fantasy of him is powerful and no real guy can compete. You probably hear your "friend" complain from time to time about him, because she knows his faults, not because she likes him half as much. The only two people in that relationship are them, and you need to back off for your own good. This means stop the drama, the sad-movie screenplay in your head, and the dreaming. You are missing out on life by just going through the motions with other guys and that is dishonest. Either don't date at all and tell this guy straight up that you want him and risk losing your friend, or stop the fantasy of what might be. Life is not a movie. Your feelings are "real" but only as real as feelings can be. Feelings come and go in life and you need to learn to master them, not let them master you in everything. Make a clear choice either way to go for him or let him go. I know this is not easy to hear, let alone, easy to do. However, I know that it is not healthy to live in the middle of both...that is why you feel trapped and unable to go on. I gave you the key to get out, but only you can choose the path from here.
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Okay I know exactly what you're going through and you kinda feel as if you're not good enough for him right? well i can say juss wish them the best of luck cause once he thinks you dont like him anymore that will kill him thats the best revenge on guys. Dont spend you're life waitin for him when you may never get him. Just keep your options open and if someone else comes along give them a chance. Let yourself go from the other guy. I know it may not be easy but you will get through it i promise. Its going to be a hrad long road but you'll live. Yes, you will probaley always love him deep in your heart but as it seems her your first love and your first love never really dies. Just become closer friends with him. It's better friends than nothing at all right? I feel for you and even though i dont know you're name i will pray for you and i wish you the best of luck. But you seem as if you were a strong girl and im sure you are just keep you're head up and see what else is out there because believe it or not your soul mate is picked out from the day you're born. hope i helped! get back to me and let me know something and if you need someone to talk to you can come to me. I hope that dosent sound weird since you dont know me but i love helping people with this kinds of stuff cause i have to go through it before.
*Cathleen*
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