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my boyfriend and i
ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for a really long time. we have had sex before but i can tell he's really getting bored. It's really easy-going-married type of sex. so what can i do to make it more exotic? more teasing? and what can i do that makes him cum more often?
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Well I can only tell you what I do!!!.
First of all talking dirty is the best way to start. tell him all sorts of ideas you have. talk about each others fantasys.. such as you in a nurses outfit or whatever that ALWAYS WORKS. but a major thing to remember is NEVER do anything you aren't comfortable with... Things like Adult movies may help you get ideas and get aroused. Some people find an active fantasy life can add novelty to a long-standing sexual relationship. This can be particularly helpful if your partner is not as sexually adventurous as you are.
Or visa versa, I have a few ideas you may like to try.. I've found them to lead VERRRRRRY EXCITING bedroom fun:-
A couple bath....
you will need:-
candles
bath oils, gels and scented soaps
large, warm, fluffy towels
loofahs, flannels, sponges
ice cubes, jasmine and/or rose oil (sexy scent known for seeeeeeeexxxxxy properties)
Listen to the sound of lapping water, watch the flicker of candlelight and revel in the soothing sensation of oils and foam.
When you're fully relaxed, use a brush or a loofah and plenty of shower gel or soap to work up a lather. Scrub each other all over and add a blast of cold water or rub an ice cube on sensitive spots to get your skin tingling.
Follow with soft flannels and sponges to soothe and smooth. The key throughout is contrast: use scratchy back brushes followed by smooth oils, and have ice cubes on hand to stimulate your heated bodies.
Finish by wrapping each other in large, warm towels.
Learn the Touch he likes...
Before you start, it's important that you both agree this isn't a prelude to sex and genital touching is out of bounds. You may find you become aroused during the exercise, but this isn't the aim.
Take it in turns to be the touched and the toucher.
The touched
You just need to lend your partner your body for 30 minutes: 15 minutes lying on your front, then 15 on your back.
You don't need to say anything unless something's uncomfortable.
The toucher
Explore your partner's body from head to toe, first the back then the front. Avoid the genital area.
Focus totally on your sensations of touch. Think about the different textures and temperatures of your partner's body.
Think about how it feels to use hard and soft, long and short strokes. Use your fingertips, palms and the back of your hands.
Remember - this isn't a massage. The point is to focus on the pleasure of touching your partner, not giving pleasure. You can do that another day.
When you've finished swap over.
focus on the sensory experience and then you can talk about it.. which i find generally leads to GREAT sex as you've shown where you/he likes to be touched
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