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me..my bf.,.and him wanting to see naked girls
To start i am almost 18 and my bf is 18. My bf and i have a 13 month history (we took a couple month break..but now i would say we have a solid relationship)
Today we went to a WWE wrestling thing and he was fascinated by the divas (they were just wearing lil mini skirts with the thong showing..ugh)..annddd today he was determined to get his S.I swimsuit edition..he likes that kind of stuff and claims its normal. it just pisses me off..and noww after this wrestling show he asked me how i would feel if he goes to a strip club..what do you guys think about this?? i hate how he drools over them ..and likes his stupid magazines..and his lil porno videos he burns off the internet.
any input..is this normal? do i let him have his fun at the strip club?..
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Not only do I have a boyfriend, most of my friends are male. So I've learned over time that yes, this is normal.
Men are visual creatures. They like to look at things. However, unless it's detracting from the attention he's giving to you, it's not a problem.
I would advise that you talk to your boyfriend. Lay down some ground rules; what are you comfortable with? A 'look but don't touch' policy is best.
Another suggestion; look around for some porn that you like. Try watching it with him, making it more of a couples activity. His eyes will pop out of his head, trust me.
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Seems like its normal for him.
The simple secret of the universe is that if men have eyes they will look. Frankly, women tend just to be more discrete about it.
You can hate him for his desire to look at bare flesh, you can yell at him and argue and cry and maybe he’ll stop doing it. But he won’t stop wanting too.
Men are going to get turned on by other women, especially teenage males. I’ve hear jokes about them getting turned on by loaves of bread or fast cars. They wake up turned on. It's a physical trigger that is not completely under their control. You might as well make him feel bad about farting. Everyone does it, we can’t always control it.
Not letting him to go is unrealistic. You don’t 'let' your boy have his fun. He is going to do what he wants too.
Certainly talk to him about your feelings. Telling him specifically what your fears are. Figure out what it is that bothers you exactly. That might help the two of you come to some compromises will let you feel secure with his decisions.
You are in control of your own feelings and reactions. You don’t have to be miserable about this. If this is something that is really hurting your relationship, then it’s not really about the models at all. It’s about the way the two of you are dealing with each other.
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