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what should i say to a friend with an eating disorder
Hi, (I am a 14 year old female) my friend and i are trying to go on a healthy diet. She is about 5'5 and i am about 5'3. She is built bigger than me and weighed 130 when we started dieting in december. I weighed about 120. We both did the same workouts and eating. She understood she was built bigger than me, but was still not fat at allll. In about two months, i got down to 116, (my goal weight was 109) and she actually gained weight (getting up to 140, when her goal weight was 119) But we were still doing all the same things! She told me how she tried gagging herself once a couple years back, and yesterday she told me she tried again but it didnt work, and that she feels stupid and wont do it again. I trust that she won't do it again, but i started yelling at her because i care about her so much and dont want her to get hurt. I definantly will ask a parent or teacher for help if the problem gets out of hand, but i was just wondering a different approach for me to tell her to stop without seeming like im not on her side. Any advie?
Thanks
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I know what you mean..you dont want to gang up on her to make her think you arent on her side..show her that you are on her side..let her know how beautiful she is..and looks dont matter..it was just a little fun diet to do together,etc.
Maybe do some research on bulimia (im sorry if its spelled wrong) Show her some articles on how harmful it is...show her you care..talk to her..let her share her feelings with you..go shopping with her but pick out cute outfits that will show off her good looks and attributes. understand that she will be a size or two bigger than you.
definately tell someone if it gets out of hand like you said you would..andd just be sensitive to her feelings..because some girls are extremely sensitive about it..i hope a couple of ideas helped?
good luck with everything
-melissa
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