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i don't feel like his girlfriend?
my boyfriend's ex girlfriend broke his heart. and now i think he is afraid to come close to a girl ebcause he's afraid of getting hurt. i love him to bits. but i don't know if i can handle it.. he takes advantage of me because he says i'm too nice.. and because i forgive people too easily.. i never told him he treated me like crap but i gave him hints and told him that he takes everythign otu on me and he doesn't act like he wants to be wtih me.. all he said was 'i'm sorry i dont' know whats wrong with me' i mean he never even told me i was pretty? aren't boyfriends supposed to flaunder you with words? it doesn't bother me i just wishe he woudl soem times it's a good confidence booster once in a while... never calls to hang out either...
so i'm asking is how can i bring it up without being mean or sounding like a total psycho
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There is really no point of trying to have a relationship with someone when it is not what you both want. You have needs that are not being met and he is too immature or selfish right now to be a boyfriend to anyone. Yes, boyfriends are suppose to say nice things and be supportive of you. This does not mean that a guy can take the place of your own self-esteem or sense of identity, but they should not take away from it either. Stop letting him take advantage of you by putting up boundaries and limitations to what you are willing to do for him. Start thinking of how you can meet your own needs for feeling good about your life and yourself, and you won't require as much from the man in your life. When you are in a healthy good place in your own soul, then you will attract a man that will add to your life and not drag you down.
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You absolutely have the right to be concerned right now. I would definately have a serious talk with your guy..no more hinting around. You have to tell him how you are feeling..if you are feeling like he is treating you like crap..then you need to say something. Tell him you want to be treated better..ask him if he doesnt want to be in a relationship right now because his ex hurt him..i know it will be hard but you have to know..if he isnt going to be committed to this relationship..you guys should break up. its not fair to you or him. Hopefully when you have this serious talk he will reassure you that he really cares and from there on out he will make a better effort with things..
let me know how it all goes pleease..and i hope i helped
-melissa
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