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Two people
Mary (who is very thin) and Sandy (who is chunky) are coworkers. They met in the hallway of their office and
Mary told Sandy she got a parking spot right across the street. As Sandy and Mary parted company for some
reason Sandy decided to scream out to Mary “Exercise”. Later on in the day Mary decided she was curious as
to what Sandy meant so she went to confront Sandy. Sandy said she mentioned exercise because she is
concerned about her heart. However, Mary wouldn’t let it rest and decided to ask “Sandy do you think I am
thin?” As Sandy was putting stuff away in her desk drawer Sandy replied to Mary “You are average, size 8”,
paused to put the other items in the desk drawer and said “size 10.” Sandy spotted a girl not to far away and
called her in and said “What size do you take?” The girl replied “Size 6, why?” Sandy replied “Because Mary
thinks I think she is heavy.” Mary left and went back to her desk. About four co-workers saw Mary and asked
Mary what was wrong and Mary told them the story. Her co-workers said to her “Mary you are thin/skinny
and cannot be more than a size 4, and not more than 110 pounds. Then Mary said “So why did Sandy say
average and size 10 if everyone sees me as skinny/thin size 4?” They replied “Because Sandy is just jealous.”
Do you agree/concur with Mary’s friends that Sandy was just a jealous individual?
Here are so things her
co-workersand friends (I used initials) said after Sandy’s remark:
AS: Mary you are so skinny
BL: Mary you
are thin.
JL: No wonder Mary you are so skinny
TG: Mary you cannot weigh more than 100 pounds YS: Thin I want to feel you Mary
SD: Mary you are thin
PK: Thin not just saying that you Mary are thin - cannot weigh more than 90 pounds
DP: How do you Mary stay so thin - and you have to be a size 4”
JK: Mary you are so
thin
LF: Mary is a thin person
HT: How skinny do you Mary want to be
AZ: He is a big man, however, you Mary I can push IP: Mary you are very thin
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It is quite often difficult to judge what size someone is, the best we can do is guess, which is not usually that accurate. This could be the mistake Sandy made.
Maybe, due to Mary being too thin, Sandy is concerned about the strain on her heart from a possible eating disorder.
If 'Mary' is the same size as a person she considers to be a reasonable size, perhaps she could take that fact as some reassurance.
However, 'Mary' appears to have had several issues about her weight and is unable to accept anyones comment that suggests she is not overweight.
Try turning it around and think how 'Mary' would feel and what she would say, if she were being constantly asked by someone she worked with, if she thought they were considered too heavy.
Maybe, as 'Mary' seems to have a lot of self confidence issues, she should seek guidence from a qualified therapist, as I am becoming seriously concerned she is becoming more and more stressed about this subject.
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Sandy may or may not be a jealous individual but that doesn't matter right now. What is more important is that Mary is an obsessive individual.
It doesn't matter what anyone thinks. It doesn't even matter what size Mary is. In fact, it was wrong of her coworkers to say anything about Mary and it was wrong of her friends to say anything about Sandy. Everybody should just move on with life no matter how fat/thin Mary is.
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