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bigggggggggggg trouble
16/f
hey. i know i can always ask for you guy's help, because you've helped me a lot over the years =) today, i'm in a crisis, and I really need the help of someone who doesn't know the situtation very well. I'm sorry if this is kind of long, but, I need to get it all in there. So, I'm going to start fromt he beginning
There is this boy named JC. I've liked this boy now for a couple of years. But, it's not that I just like him. He's been my everything since I've known him. When I'm around him, it's like I can't even begin to put into words how I feel. This person is so important to me. I've written him a series of letters over the years, telling him how I feel about him. Recently, I've started a binder and I'm planning on giving it to him, without saying who it's from yet. I didn't feel ready to give it to him because he has a girlfriend. I know he doesn't really love his girlfriend because I know why he's with her. It has to do with their families and it's just a relationship of convinience. He just has her to say he has a girlfriend and their families know each other. It was just like convinient.
Sometimes, I have tried to get over this boy. But, I don't really want to get over him. When I'm ready to tell him, I'll tell him. But, I've had boyfriends, other guys. But, I mean, I got my first kiss when I was 14. I was there with this boy, who took me to eighth grade prom, and I wasn't just not going to kiss him. Besides, I had felt bad because, well, you know, imagine if I hadn't kissed anyone now because I was waiting for him, and he was there with his girlfriend. I would feel awful, and I would feel worse if I saw them together and I had never had a first kiss waiting for the boy who has a girl sitting on his lap, right?
So, I have a boyfriend now. He's a very sweet guy, and I like him a lot. These two boys go to different schools, rival schools. haha. But, yesturday we went to this fair at JC's school. I went because that school is my school's brother school and I wasn't going to miss it just because my boyfriend didn't want to go to the rival school fair, but he ended up going. So, we found this little hut in the school and we started making out and he gave me hickey. I was there with him, and some other people. So, my best friend texts me and tells me she couldnt find me, and I told her we found a spot. So, my mom drove us home, because I'm learning how to drive, and I don't like driving at night, because I'm still learning. He goes to this thing called paintballing and he lives with his grandparents, so usually his grandpa takes him. But, he didn't have a ride because his grandpa took the car with him on a business trip. So, he called this kid, to pick him up, so he could sleep over at his house and take him to paintballing today.
my mom sees the kids and totally freaks out. I see the kids and totally freak out. I'm so scared, it's not even funny. These kids were bad, and like really bad. So I send my best friend a text message saying, listen my mom and i are really scared of these kids, i don't think my mom wants me to be with him anymore, and that i needed help covering up the hickey what should i do? and I didn't send the text message to my best friend. The message, BY ACCIDENT was sent to my boyfriend. So, when he gets it, I had to make up some lame excuse that I switched phones with this kid, but now everyone is mad. I just want to fix this and I don't know how. I couldn't stop crying yesturday and I don't know what to do. I really really want to fix this. please can you give me some advice on this?
Thing is, last night, at 2 in the morning when I was crying, I called JC. I called himand I was about to tell him everything. But, he was sleeping and the phone was off. So, there we go. Anyways, I don't know if this is important but, please please help me
Please and thank you
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It sounds to me like you have no idea what you want. You say you love JC, yet you're making out with your "boyfriend" at some fair.
First of all, if you think you love someone, don't waste your time on other people. Break up with your boyfriend and pursue what you really want.
Second of all, how sure are you that JC doesn't really like his girlfriend? Talk to him about it and get his feelings on the subject. If you find that he and his girlfriend are happy, you need to back off and leave them alone.
Thirdly, DON'T give him the binder. My advice is to throw it away. That would be weird and it would scare him away. If you really want to impress this guy, tell him your feelings in person. Your confidence will draw him to you.
If things don't work out wiht JC, it won't do you any good to mope about it. Liking someone for as long as you have is not mentally healthy AT ALL. It can easily turn into obssession and you will end up embarrassing yourself.
Bottom line, decide what you really want. Go for it. If things don't work out, it's not the end of the world.
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Wow... a lot to this story and I hope I can help.
First- I wouldn't give him the HOLL binder because that would be kinda akward. Wait a week.. and in that week give him a letter everyday then on Monday of the next week give him the binder. Im thinking it wont be so overwhelming.
Second-Get rid of his girlfriend.Real girlfriend or not. Its not far for the girl and you need to sqeeze between them..lol.It'll be easier.
Third-If you love this boy you need to tell him. Just think of life without him in the years.... Sucky huh well tell him and if he likes you back! Thats a fairytale waiting to happen....
Hope I helped
Katie!
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if you loveee JC, maybe you should tell him how you really feel. take the risk.
in your boyfriends case, be honest with him and tell him how you really feel too.
goooooo luck
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