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got told on
the other day my mom brought in some food for me to eat. I didn't eat it. Until after 1 day she came back in at my room and saw it. she got mad at me saying that i want the food to spoil before taking it out before other people could eat. and i thought where was that coming from. i didn't get why she was mad i thought she didn't want to eat it so why should i take it out. I just want to know what can i do for this type of abuse to stop happening? I think it's abuse she had said other hurtful things to me.
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I don't think that constitutes as abuse. Your mother made a reasonable request. All she was really asking for you to do was to put the food in the refridgerator if you didn't want to eat it. She was probably upset because she considered your behavior to be inconsiderate and wasteful. She might have also been upset because you left the food spoiling in your bedroom. Is it really that difficult to avoid this type this conflict? Next time she brings you something to eat and you don't want it, just take a minute to carry it into the kitchen and put it in the fridge.
I can imagine why you're upset. You're probably at that age where you are starting to establish your own individuality. Having people nag you about your habits probably irritates you. And having your mother invade your personal space and jump on you for something that you consider trivial leaves you befuddled.
While I do understand what YOU are feeling... I also understand what she is feeling. The best way to avoid further conflict is probably just to try respecting her rules, and trying to be a little more considerate of the way she is feeling. She might still irritate you on a frequent basis, but that's fairly common when a teenager has to share a roof with their parents. We all go through it, we all get over it... Just wait. Pretty soon you'll be old enough to move out on your own, and then you'll be able to do whatever you want.
Like I said... If this is your best example of the conflict between you and your mother, I can't classify that as abuse. I don't know what else she has said to you, or what your relationship is like. I can only suggest that in the future, if she says something that hurts your feelings, try stating in a calm and rational manner that she has hurt your feelings, and WHY what she said hurt your feelings to begin with. Maybe if you let her know what she is doing wrong, it will be easier for her do it right.
If you really feel that you are suffering from emotional abuse, try seeking the help of your school's guidance counselor. Since they know you better than I, they will be able to provide you with more help and support.
Best of luck, take care. ;)
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