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i messed up. bad.
recently, ive been messing up really bad. ive been drinking more. i started smoking weed about a month ago. ive started smoking cigs as well. i used to believe in abstinence, and i had sex with my friend the other night. not even my boyfriend, he was just my friend. the thing is, around people, i act normal. when im with my friends, i partially forget about all those things, i put them in the back of my mind. my family has no clue what goes on in my life. but when im by myself, i tend to think a lot. ive been thinking about these things a lot. ive been thinking about how i used to HATE smokers. and think that girls at this age who have sex are HUGE sluts. ive been telling myself that this is who i am now, &that im okay with it, but i dont know if i really am okay with it. i just don`t know what to do. i dont even know what my question is. maybe.. what should i do? i cant figure out if im okay with the way i am now or not. i just cant decide. i really dont know what to do. i want to be okay with it, but then im not. i want to hate myself for turning into everything that im against, but i cant.
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Smoking, having sex, and drinking DO NOT make up who you are. It's all about the choices you make. Sure, you feel like you messed up now, but when you made those choices, you thought it was a good idea at the time. That is why you should never regret anything. Instead, try to learn from your experiences. Do you really want to be someone that ruins their life with drugs, alcohol, and sex?
I think you really need to take a good look at your life and everything that is going on. I want you to back a list of things in your life that make you happy and things that make you unhappy and/or cause you pain in ANY way. Then I want you to take the list of things that make you unhappy and figure out how you can change them for the better. For example, say you are upset that you lost your virginity so soon. Fix it by vowing to yourself that you will be more responsible and true to your personal feelings next time and not just physical.
Then, take the list of things that make you happy and surround yourself with those things. If you love hanging out with your friends, spend time with them and start a girl's night.
The best advice I can give you is to take your habits of drinking and smoking and put them behind you. All they will do is cost you your health and money and get you into trouble. No good whatsoever will come out of doing those things.
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everyone goes through a phase like this in their lifes, wether its with the drugs and alcohol, or changing their style, or doing poorly in school. you just need to experience these things and find out that they probably arent for you. if your not sure if your ok with all of this, then chances are, your not. try to pull out of this early on, because if you dont, its going to get harder and harder to if you want to stop. if you have a really close friend who isnt into this stuff, then try to confide in him or her. usually that helps. also try to hang out with people who dont do that stuff, so you wont be around it, so you wont be as tempted to do it. try to get into something else to keep your mind off of it, wether its sports, or art, or music,or cooking, ect. because usually when you have something to keep you occupied, your not as likely and tempted to do those things. feel free to drop one in my inbox if you need anything more. im always willing to help if i can!
good luck! i hope everything turns out good for you! sorry my answer was so long! lol
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you may seem alone, but i'm pretty sure that almost everybody our age feels the same way, with sex, or drugs, alcohol, and other things. you're just trying to find yourself. you don't know what you want yet, or how you should act. i feel the same exact way. i feel one way one minute, then i think about it and i change my mind. i do something, and then when i'm sitting in my room, i wonder why the hell i did it. what was the point, i used to think that it was rediculous. it's tough, but you really have to think about what you're doing to yourself and how it's affecting you. YOU'RE NOT ALONE THOUGH!, you're just trying to find your place. cheers to teenage years:], haha. <3 if you need help, feel free to send something to my inbox!
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i understand, i used to smoke weed and its so hard to stay sober. but think about it, its so illegal, how much trouble could this get you in? what if your parents found uout? what about your reputation? think about your old believes and things? this cojld be ahrd but honestly i think u should go back to what ypou were before because you gotta have repect for yourself! hope i helped if u ever need anything leaveo ne in my inbox
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