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kay, well to make a sorta long story super short, there's a guy i like and he used to be in one of my classes, but we rarely ever talked, even then. i liked him then but couldn't get up the courage to talk to him, and he doesn't know that i like him. now he's not in any of the same classes as me, but some of my friends are in classes with him. i don't talk to him outside of school, like, ever. he's never on aim and he doesn't update his myspace. how should i talk to him to get to know him? should i get his number? wouldn't it be super awkward to just go up to him one day and ask for his number? and also, wouldn't it be a little weird to find out his number otherwise and just call him up randomly one day? what should i do to, i dono, break the ice with him?
i guess i'm trying to ask, how should i go about trying to get to know this guy better? what i know about him i like a lot already, and i just want to get closer to him and for him to get to know me too. we say hi to each other in the halls every day, and one time he stopped in the middle of a crowded hall just to turn around to say hi to me. i don't know if he was just being nice or what. anyway, sorry for this being semi-long. thanks in advanceee.
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Well the same sort of thing happened to a friend of mine, she was in a club with this guy she liked, and they were like paired up as partners, and they sorta got to know each other, and she had a super huge crush on him, well then the club ended for the year and she didnt know what to do to get to still keep talking to him. But they had a lot of the same interests so she joined another club he was in and asked him for help, because honestly she had no idea how to do anything (lol) so she got to spend some more time with him, but the club was only on for like a month and a half, and she didnt get to show him how she really felt, so she joined some weird club to be with him for no reason. So if you do something like that, make sure you have the courage to actually tell him that you like him (or something of the sorts)
You could play the game a lot of people seem to play, where they get their friends to ask him if he likes you or if he wants to go out with you or whatever. But you have to think about that. You have to figure out if he's the type of guy who will actually listen to what people say about you, or will he just shake them off and think that it would have been better for you to just be up front with him.
You know it's kinda funny, all guys are different, but for some, they just think that they would rather a girl just tell them. But some guys would just be freaked out. So you kinda have to judge by the guy, whether or not he would be happy that you just told him, or would he think that was stupid. If you do that, I'd say it would probably be best to ask one of his friends to get him to meet you somewhere (like the back stair case at school or the door outside the library) so you could tell him.
You could try and sit near by him and his friends at lunch, but you should bring a friend or two with you then to help the confidence levels up.
A way to get him with your phone number in his pocket, would be to throw a party, and have an invite list. I know it seems kinda weird, but if you print out peices of paper with your address and phone number and make sure he gets one, then he will definatly have it right?
Another important thing to keep in mind, is that if you dont hang out with each other for a while that connection the two of you had when you were in the same class will fade, so you have to keep he energy up and everytime you see him smile and wave, or say hey____, if he's not looking at you directly because that way when he gets your number (whether you give it to him, or a friend or the invitation or whatever) he'll remember all those times you tried to get his attention. And also thats a great way to monitor whether he is getting annoyed by you or he still likes you (as a friend or more)
Theres also this cheesy thing that I read in a book once, and you'll probably thinks it's stupid, but I just realized that it might actually work... What you do, it you write a not in two different hand writings (like say you and a friend, or just like two different styles of writing) and pretend that you're two different gossips talking about how much _____ likes you. It doesnt have to be true, but that will start a rumour going, and once you have a rumour going around, then when he hears it (and he will) he'll think... hmmm ______ yeah I know her, I don't like her that way now, but maybe... It might work to get you into his head. But that might not work, so you dont have to take that advice if you dont want to (lol) but it's creative and sounds kinda fun. If nothing happens after a few days you can try spreading the rumour by mouth too, get a friend to be like "I heard _____ likes that girl over there" word of mouth will definatly work, but you have to have super good friends who are totally willing to help. And if you do that and someone says: "oh so I hear _____ likes you" (and they will) be all nochaluant and say hmmm really? Thats interesting, and the person will think you're lying (which you are) and if they're really into gossip they'll spread it around.
But enough of that incase you dont like that idea, you can try to find something that he would enjoy, like say he likes books, and get a copy, then talk to him about it, and then ask him if he wasnt to borrow it sometime, and if he does then slip a peice of paper with your name and phone number on it and when he finds it, maybe he'll keep it. But that only works for somethings.
That's all I've got for now, but I'll keep thinking, and if none of those work for you, you can ask me again, but every guy and every girl is different, so if you want more help, why don't you give me a few more details :D!
I hope I sparked some inspiration in you and maybe one of those ideas will work for you, if not, then let me know. I hope I answered your question :s. Good luck, and don't hesitate to ask again. Love ya,
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