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my best friend moved away and now we are strangers
Hey. I'm 15 and a female and the guy tht I am talking about is 15 and a male. Okay. So this summer, I became best friends with the greatest guy in the world. But he moved away this summer. See, while he was here he was going out with my other best friend and she loved him and he "loved her," but I had feelings for him and right before he moved, I found out that he had feelings for me too. Nothing ever happened between us and we became more and more distant right before he moved. When he was finally gone, he slowly stopped talking to me and he stopped caring. And now we don't talk at all, and when we used to talk, it was because I was the only one who made the effort. But I want to talk to him so badly and I just want to see him again. I just want him to care for me like I care for him. I like him alot as a crush and I think I always will, but I love him as a friend and I don't think that he understands how much that him not talking to me is killing me. I just miss him so much. I don't think that I have ever missed someone so much in my entire life. What do I do? Do I move on? How do I get him to care again? I'm so sad and I don't want to be anymore.
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Maybe he feels the same way. Are you sure that he doesn't think that YOU don't care anymore? If you don't put forth the effort to talk to him anymore, he could think that.
There isn't much you can do, other than to try to talk to him again. Surely, there's someone you know who has his phone number, Myspace, or screenname.
When you first start talking to him, take it slow. Don't yell at him for not talking to you for a long time, and don't hold it against him. Also, don't talk to him too much or smother him, because that will just annoy him. Like I said, take it slow, and keep it light until you get to know each other better (again).
If you want to talk to him so bad, then do so. You may be afraid of the risks (if you're afraid that he doesn't feel the same way) because, really, what good is life if you don't take risks and get out of your comfort zone once in a while? If he doesn't want to talk, he isn't worth your time. I know he was your friend and you care about him, but you deserve to be friends with someone who you care about and who cares about you. Friendships, like any other relationship, shouldn't be one-sided.
He could have changed, too. That could be another reason he stopped talking. If he did change, for whatever reason, you need to accept that and remember that you liked who he used to be, not who he is now. I'm not saying that that's the case, but it's definitely a possibility.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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