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Deja vu
female/16
When I was a freshman i liked a guy named B, we flirted all the time and i thought he didn't like me back. Of course after months of talking with him I found out that he had a girlfirend the whole time that he never told me about.
Fast forward to two years later, present day, I'm completely over him. Then out of the blue he sends me a message on myspace telling me he used to like me back then, i told him i used to like him too. We both had a laugh at how shy we were back then to have niether of us make a move. Now we're talking alot again, and flirting a lot too. Basically its deja vu i like him again & he has a girlfriend again (they've been going out for awhile).
What should i do?
tell him?
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Hey, im trevin Yes I think you should tell him because u don't want the same thing to happen. he might like u back. you never know.
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Just because a guy has a girlfriend, that doesn't make him automatically unavailable. "Stealing" someone away from their current significant other is a time-honored tradition in the game of Love.
However, consider this: apparently, B has no problem flirting with girls behind his girlfriend's back. If you were to become his girlfriend, isn't it likely that he'd do the same to you?
I think you need to clarify what light he sees you in, and for that matter what you want from him (are you indeed "completely over him"?). If you want to be his girlfriend, by all means tell him - but one of the conditions you must set is that he break it off with her BEFORE the two of you start dating. Otherwise, you're essentially giving him permission to date other girls behind your back once the two of you become a couple.
Maybe B is just a flirtatious, playful kind of guy, and it never occurred to him to tell you he had a girlfriend when you first knew him. Maybe he is now seeing how interested you are in him before he breaks off his current relationship; after all, if you don't want to date him at all, he has no reason to break it off with someone else.
Or, maybe he likes keeping secrets. Consider carefully whether you might someday be the one he's keeping secrets from.
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