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Online relationship...
15/f. Okay...this is quite complicated. But I'll try and explain. Okay...I joined an online forum (namely a 'Queen Fans' forum) and I met a guy there. Let's call him Freddie. Freddie is 18 and lives in Canada. I, myself, live in the states (farthest state from Canada lol). Well, I've known him (online, "Msn, AIM, etc") for about 7 months now. And him and I have gotten really close, like we've chatted, and sent pictures, talked on the phone, etc. I REALLY like him, and I think he's fond of me too. But the only thing that bothers me about this is the whole "online" thing. The truth is - I'm planning to meet him this summer. My question (for advice) is this -...I might not even HAVE a chance to meet him after all...and If I don't, is there really ANY point in continuing being friends with him? It's REALLLLLLYYYYYYYY weird and confusing...but he tells me that he loves me, and cares for me, and keeps on giving me hints like "When you're 18, come down to Canada again" or "Call me when you're 18" or even "When I see you, I'm going to pamper you with gifts (etc)". I know him now as if I knew him in REAL life, that's how close we are. And we talk to each other very personally, sharing secrets, talking about problems. On a VERY personal level (one that I would be with a best friend). But...the online thing's kind of a turn off. I'm asking you, nice and brilliant advice-givers, if I should keep this little shananigan going on...and if I should make him wait for me...Or if this is just TOO rediculous, and I should just move on in my relationships? weird...haha i know. Thanks so much in advance. I hope I didn't confuse anyone XD
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you're rite this relationship is in a tuff ruff but i think if you really fancy him you should follow your heart, but then agian he could of been someone totaly fake, but if u trust him enuff then go for it! pribally i don't really like online relationships for this exact reason. And if he thinks you are saying lies then i suggest you don't take relationship out of the cyber world b/c he might not trust you in real life. it is up to you just don't yourself
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sorry to tell you this, but im pretty sure he is full of shit. the legal age of consent in canada is 14, so he would have no reason to have you wait till you are 18. meeting people offline is in general a bad idea anyway.
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You're right, this is pretty complicated.
If you care about him as much as he cares about you, then it may be worth keeping it going. Love can indeed prevail through situations like these, and it may be worth keeping up.
However, it's good that you're realistic about the future. The fact that he's so far away makes things very difficult, and it may be better to break it off now before he becomes too attached.
The third end of the spectrum would be whether he's trustworthy... You would know this better than I do, and I'm sorry if these seems un-knowledgeable or insulting. But the truth is, there are guys out there who are just trying to take advantage of girls online.
Ultimately, you're going to have to decide just how important the relationship is to you, and what you're willing to endure to preserve it.
Hope I helped.
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