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How do I fix myself?
I was raped when i was a younger child by my older cousin and ever since then I've been unable to perform an sexual act with another person. I get an erection but then lose it very quickly and I can never reach a climax or anything... I can when i'm alone but I can't seem to do it when I'm with anyone no matter how much stimulation they give me handjob, blowjob, etc. I've been to a shrink but it didn't seem to help me out... How can I fix myself to be able to show that type of intimacy with someone else? The reason why I ask is because i've been dating this guy for almost 4 months now and we've messed around a lot but he doesn't want it to be a one-sided thing where he is able to reach his climax and have an orgasm whereas I don't. I've already told him my situation and it frustrates him that he can't do anything to make me be able to Climax... Can anyone help me??
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like you said you can reach it when your alone maybe its trust issues im sorry what happened to you when you were younger and if a shrink cant help you than its you who can cure your self maybe your just holding on to the past because of what happened to you you need to try to let go of the past the best you can and just let go only see him and you ,you can try writting down poems and song and even writing to your self i know it sounds crazy but its the only thing that keeps me sane just try to let go of the past i hope i helped maybe you can start climaxing when you win that inner battle within yourself hope i helped
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You've been to therapy before and it hasn't worked. I would actually suggest that you try some kind of couples therapy with your partner. Even though you're not permanantly together or anything, maybe being there with the therapist AND the person you want to have a good time sexually with is what you need. Rape is a really tough thing to recover from. You can do it though, so don't give up. Keep fighting as hard as you can. I wish you the very best of luck. :)
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