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hypocritical boyfriend =/
i need help with my boyfriend. i'm sorry it's long but please read i need major help! he told me today that he's been thinkin a lot about our relationship and i don't know what to do. i guess you could say that he is a hypocritical person which isn't good =/ here's the deal: so whenever i hang out with my friends and there are guys there he gets like upset or jealous or whatever emotion he gets.. let's just say he doesn't like it, so i feel guilty for hanging out with them even thought i don't do anything! like he keeps saying that he doesn't trust the guys, but i can defend myself especially with my guys friends and plus they wouldn't try to do anything with me because they know i have a boyfriend(they're basically scared of him because he's strong haha) i've brought my boyfriend to my friends house with me in the past but it doesn't really work because he doesn't really like my friends.. but then he'll hang out with his one friend (whose a girl) and go to the mall with her & to her house and he doesn't think anything of it, if i was to do the same thing he'd probably get mad. i don't care because i know he won't do anything with her. also, this weekend he had a hockey game and his friend ryan's* girlfriend drove him there. ryan* was in the car also. i don't have a problem with this at all, i couldn't go because i was skiing this weekend... then i find out that ryan*'s cousin also went (who is a girl), i was looking at his myspace and saw that he messeged her (the cousin) saying something like; thanks for coming to my game and i had fun hanging out with you so thank you for that, but my boyfriend didn't tell me until i asked him about it, 3 days later & he said he didn't really have fun with them. yeah you're prob thinking 3 days later big deall, but if i don't tell him i'm with guys that day or earlier i'm screwed. so you see what situation i'm in? im sorry it's long but i could REALLY use any help!!! thank you.
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A jealous boyfriend who knows why he should not trust the guys...because he is one of them. Don't let him control you, but things have to be equally acceptable to both of you. Either you both can hang with whomever you want, or neither can. It does sound like he is either a flirt or just seeks everyone's approval...sometimes both go together.
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woah! your story sounds a lot like my relationship....well....how it used to be.
same kind of thing. You know what i did? i left him. just said, ok, know what? im going to pick my friends now! and dont even look back. sometimes you have to leave for them to realize how much they miss you and how you are so tightly leashed that the rope broke and you are fleeing.
the trick is to not break down and beg for him back. at least not for like, a year.
Maybe it sounds like a screwball idea...but it worked for me.
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It seems like your gut is telling you this isn't working and that he is being unreasonable. You are young and have no reason to stick it out in a relationship where a guy is controlling and flakey. And he is being controlling! He knows exactly the effect his pointless anger and judgments are having on you. You are nervous and insecure for no reason and that isn’t right at all.
You are willing to compromise, be reasonable and talk these issues out and well, he isn’t. Do you really want a relationship where you have to walk on eggshells around your boyfriend?
Sounds to me dear, like you just plain aren’t happy with the hypocrite. I wouldn’t be either.
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