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His friends are jerks
I'm a 21 year old female, and I sincerely dislike my boyfriend's friends. They all act like douche bags, they treat their girlfriends like dirt (some even cheat on them), and I fail to understand why my boyfriend would want to hang around with guys like this. I would never tell him how I feel on this matter, but it makes me worry that his friends will be a bad influence on him, and it often makes me upset. What can I do about this situation?
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Just be honest. It's hard telling your boyfriend "Hey, I think your friends are butt holes." But, if he respects you and appreciates your honesty he's probably going to be cool about it. I mean, don't just be like "Hey, your friends are douche bags and I don't want you to hang out with them" because that would result in negative things, guys react way differently, it's all a matter of how you word things withh them.
I just had this conversation with my boyfriend last night. I was straight up, I'm like "Baby, your friends....they do very stupid stuff....a lot. And I'm not down with that. I'm not telling you to stop hanging out with them, but I'm telling you how I feel about them. You can interpret and act on that any way you want. I'm just letting it out there". He actually took it very well and said that he would be real and talk with them about the problem. Guys have very simple minds, so you have to honest and straight forward with them.
Just be real girl!
Hope that helped. haha =]
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It's simple. We all tend to see beyond the flaws of our friends and focus on the good side of them that most people who are not friends with their friends may not see.
I mean as girl we at least have a friend that talks dirt about other people, lies a lot, knocks up guys, drinks/smokes, etc etc. Yet we are still friends with them because they have at least one characteristic that is addictive and attractive (friend way) that we continue with the friendship.
If your boyfriend is strongly connected to you, he wouldn't let his friend's stupidity such as cheating or treating girls badly get in the way of your relationship.
You should talk to him but don't go something along the line of: I don't like your friends, they're bad influence. Just slightly clue them in. Just say something like: you know that friend that cheats, blah blah...promise you won't do that to me blah blah.
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if you and your boyfriend are close enough then you should be able to speak about anything, even this! If its getting to you then something needs to be done about it, especially if you think they could affect your boyfriends personality or the way he treats you!
just tell him that the way his friends are is bothering you and you dont want it to affect your relationship! ask him if he's noticed their imaturity x
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