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boyfriends parents
my boyfriends parents are soo rude. it drives me insane. i just came back from a 3 day vacation with them, and aside from being with my boyfriend, it wasnt too pretty. there was a couple occasions that we went out to eat, and they'd get up from the table and say "alright get up and let's go", even though i was still in the middle of eating. they did the same thing if we were in a store, even if i was looking at stuff to actually buy. also, they talk about people very rudely. when we were leaving, we stopped at a gas station and because the gas price was high, when they got back in the car they were whining about it and said "that b*****d can go to hell" and sayin they hope he goes bankrupt and stuff. AND they cuss SOOO much. like whoah. and the worse stuff possible. my family cusses minimally, and certainly not every word. its quite rare that my family cusses. but with them, every sentence they say contains a cuss word. one time his mom dropped some change or something in the room and she decides to yell "f*** me with a limp d***!". !?!?! that is just unnacceptable to me. first of all, thats not something to shout just because you drop some change, secondly, theyve used language like that ever since ive been around, but you'd think they'd have a little more respect and class than to use that kind of vulgarity around just anyone. and they smoke.. and cigarrette smoke irritates me. it burns my eyes and makes my head hurt yet i swear they each smoke like a pack a day. i just dont know what to do. i cant whine to my boyfriend about his parents. he doesnt smoke but he does cuss, although he tries to tone it down around me because he knows that i DO NOT cuss. i just dont. ive never been in that habit. and dont say talk to his parents because honestly they are quite intimidating to me. i cant tell my mom because she'll stop lettin me hang around them and say i dont need to be around those types of people, but i go to see my boyfriend, NOT them. basically i just want to know how to deal. any ideas? thanks- 16/female.
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Well maybe you shouldn't hang out with his parents anymore, even if it's a vacation type thing.
Just be on good terms with them.
You're with their son, not them .. so you don't need to see them or anything.
You certainly can't change his parents and talking to them is.. just hard. So just hang out at your house or somewhere else as much as possible. If you are at his house then stay away from them and be with your boyfriend.
I'm sure he's worried about your impression of them. Just don't say anything, he's used to it and it probably doesn't bother him. He probably doesn't want anyone saying bad things about his parents.
Some families are like his but they cover it up when there's company. But his.. they are just being themselves and they don't want to hide it.
So just go see your boyfriend. You don't have to do anything with them. Ask to hang out with him.
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woah, what harsh parents!!!
dont go to his house anymore or avoid it as much as you can. whenever he wants to hang out with you, try to hang out at your house or at the mall, movies, bowling, iceskating; anything that doesnt involve his parents.
even if you confronted them, they still wouldnt change. people have different personalites and you cant change people. maybe thats how his parents were brought up and its not their fault that they cuss and smoke a lot, because maybe its the only way they know how to function
just ignore them, and try to stay away from them. and if for whatever reason, you do have to be with them,don't let them get to you and ignore all of the swearing and just feel bad that they cant live life without cussing.
best of luck
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the best thing i can tell you is, relationships are rough and the parents are rougher. Have you tried possibly spending time with him somewhere else? at your house? or at the mall or some place away from his parents? I know that you really can't talk to them, but you can try talking to him. Don't necessarily complain about it, but just tell him that you feel a little uncomfortable and ask if he has any suggestions to make you feel more comfortable. He might suggest a change of scenery. Its really tough, but if you're really into it, i say to try to just make it better. YOu can make the parents change, but you can change how much you're around them and whatnot. Good luck!
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