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hello again im the girl who asked you the 3 questions ive always wonderd (srry it wuz actually 5 questions)
well ok im not even a pre-teen yet im only 12 and a half years old but im very muture for my age lets get that stright
ok so im bi and all my freinds know and they dont care they luv me for who i am i mean being bi sexual is nothing to be ahamed of! i have been for 1 year
ok lets get another thing stright, my parents have no clue. and im questioning myself if i should tell them or wait till im older so they understand (im still only 12 a kid my parents are going to have a hard time understaning) i mean i know they love me and that they wont care if i was bi but i dont want to tell them this early, i feel uncomftrabel.
my only fear is them finding out, then they will get mad that ive been hideing it from them. im not imbarrest about being bi (most of my freinds support it) and i just dont know what to do!!!
i need help <3 i know im only 12 so my parents wont listen cause im not 20 where i can experment nor i dont date "for real" you know what 7th grade luv is....just a crush, so i have a feeling i should wait till im older to tell if i am truely bi, i mean how can a kid truely know?? but i know im bi, and i want advice
(srry i didnt mean to write so much)--ashley
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Hey, Ashley.
I think I understand your question. Should you hide your feelings of being attracted to girls and boys based upon how your parents will react?
I know you're young, but I've had a lot of gay friends and they have always told me they knew at a very early age that they were attracted to the same sex. The people I've known who are bi have always said they are attracted to people, not bodies, and sometimes they fall for females and sometimes males. I believe that you can tell at the age of 12 1/2 that you are attracted to both.
Here's my question for you. If the idea of telling your parents you're bi makes you uncomfortable, and there's no need for them to know right now (like you don't need protection from STDs), why tell them? You can wait until you're more comfortable or when you start dating someone. I don't remember ever telling my parents that I was heterosexual, but I know they picked it up by the way I acted.
You may, at some point, have to tell them quite bluntly. They may assume that your girlfriend is your friend, for example, and not realize that you are dating. Right now, I say you're not hurting anyone by not mentioning your feelings. You are not hiding relationships or giving your parents any other reason to mistrust you. Since it makes you uncomfortable, wait until you either get more comfortable or have a reason to tell your parents.
Maybe when you're 16 or so you will be more ready to open up to your parents about your sexuality. Don't hide it and don't deny it if asked. If they ask you later why you didn't speak up sooner, you can just tell them that you weren't comfortable talking about it yet and you needed more time to be sure of what you felt.
In the meantime, dear, since you are having sexual feelings, I suggest that you become familiar with what things are out there to help you protect yourself from pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases so you will know how to have a safe relationship should one develop. With a girl-girl relationship, there is no risk of pregnancy, but there is still a risk of disease.
I hope I have been helpful.
Sabine
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