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we always fight and i want to stop!
(f/14) me && my guy fight A LOT...usually over stupid stuff!!i want to stop fighting like that..i love him to death!!i want to cry like all the time when we fight cuz its always my fault!!we never have anything to talk about!!&& conversation is like a relationship!!does anyone have ANY topics i can use?? (besides..how r you,how was your day, whats up,the same old boring stuff!) We normally fight over stuff i say...&& normally right after i say something i regret it!! Its like I always get on his nerves and start the fight!!I DONT want to lose him!!but i know if i keep it up i will!!HELP ME PLEASE!!I really love him to death...what do i do to stop our fighting??
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First of all, it's sad to hear that you two do fight a lot. If you are constantly feeling it's your fault and always your fault, that's not right. Something you may say might get to someone but it's up to them to make it into a big deal or not. From you saying that he does make it into a big deal, doesn't seem like he's willing to compromise on this. Compromise is a HUGE part of a relationship. You don't always have to, but if you don't give in on one thing, maybe you should give into others. The only way you can stop the fighting is if you talk to him of why he feels that what you say causes him to act out at you. Until you understand that, you won't really know why he does this yourself. Any relationship can be tough. As for other topics to talk about, talk about your interests or his. Like, is he into sports? Are you into music? Do you follow the news about your favorite type of music? Is he more of a person that stays home? Talk to him about what you might have learned today or recently. Might spark him to mention something he just came across that you might not know.
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Talk about your music that you like, or school, friends, family, people, hobbies, intrests. Theres so much to talk about in the world, you just need to get the ball rollin' with a good topic. Then once thats figured out, the coversation should start flowing well. Try to think before you talk too. If you know what causes the fights, then dont say anything that will make him mad. Just try to think before you say something that will make you guys get in a fight.
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