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I know that this a problem I'm having, but I think that it has more to do with my mom because she keeps sticking words in my mouth. yesturday, she told me that all she wanted for christmas was for me to wear this stupid shirt that i hate more than you can ever imagine. i told her no and i told her that it's silly. i know its really mean and its not true but i told her that i didn't get what i waanted for christmas. and i was just mad at her because i told her i hate that shirt. so, she assumed that i was talking aboout school because i do hate my school. and then we got into a huge fight. today, i have my period and i was crying because i get really bad cramps, and she told me that i was really crying about school. i'm tired of her sticking words in my mouth and i know that she hates how i hate my school and she never wants to talk about school, so now she's taking it out on me, and i've had it because i've stopped mentioning school to her. I know how much it upsets her and I'm tired of fighting with her, but if she keeps sticking words in my mouth, how can i get anywhere with her?
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Often parents will put words in their kids mouths because they have been through this sortof thing before, but what they often do not realise is that times have changes since they were a teenager. So the best way for you to explain is for you to tell he rhow you feel. And if she continues to put words in your mouth when you are talking, (I know it sounds silly, but sometimes weird things are the things that work) make a "talking stick" like you had in preschool, lol, so that you can both say what you want and not get interupted.
It is important to have a strong relationship with your mother when you are young, because you need to be able to have that person to be your confident and rolemodel, and most of all, the one who is there for you on a daily basis. You are going to have to "deal with her" ( or "spend time with her") for the rest of your lives, you might as well make those years the best ones because theres only one mom out there for you and you can't get a new one now, and I think if you spend time trying to understand where she is coming from, you wont want a new one.
Understand that she is human too, and she makes mistakes, she has feelings, she has worries, doubts and believes, but they may be different from yours, and if you talk to her about that hopefully you can come to an understanding.
Also, like the talking stick, there are other ways to keep the conversation going, or at least get it started. I saw is seventeen magazine the other day a "coupon" that yopu can use if you want to have the sex talk with your parents. And what you can do is make up a coupon with some information about what you want to talk about and put some advice on the back about being calm, telling them to schedual a couple of hours etc. there are millions of other ways to get to your mom so that the two of you can talk, and if you google it, I'm sure you will be able to find some information, and cute ways liek the coupon to talk to your mom about important issues.
I hope that I helped to give you an idea of what you are experiencing, from an outsiders perspective, Its good that you came here and asked for help, and don't be afraid to ask others outside of the argument to give you their opinions, keeping everything inside not only sucks royally, but it also isnt very healthy. So if you need help in the future don't be afraid to ask (but hopefully, you'll have your mom to go to that for!!) Good luck, and I truely hope I helped. Lots of Love, Angie91
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well..you and your mum need to sit down and talk to each other and more than talk you need to listen to each other.your mum "sticking words in your mouth" might be away to come to terms with the fact that your growing up and that your not gonna aggre with every thing she says and everything she wants.and 'bout you not liking school tell your mum way you dont like it and see how you can change it.
hope i helped xx
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