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Purses Answers
Ok another thing with my mom. Last year my Aunt Susie (87 years old - one of my moms sisters) came to stay with us for another aunts 90 birthday bash. As I told you I buy purses for $1.49 to $1.99 that look like $60 or more (strangers tell me they love the purses and cannot believe that I only spent $1.49 to $1.99). My mom said to me; Why dont you give one to your aunt; which I did. But this year I started to think about it and I got mad reason being she was being to free with my possessions. So tonight I confronted her about what she did a year ago (I know it was the past but it still bothered me). And she said; well if I had an 87 year old dying aunt I wouldnt hesitate to give her a purse that I had: I then said to my mom that is her not me. BUT I AM STILL ANGRY BECAUSE I DONT THINK SHE REALIZES THAT I BROUGHT 7 OF EACH COLOR BECAUSE THEY WERE INEXPENSIVE AND WILL LAST ME A LIFE TIME AND THEY ARE CLOSEOUTS AND I CAN NEVER GET THEM AGAIN. I keep thinking how dare she offer my possessions to anyone. It should come from me. I asked her what if Aunt Susie could come down again I am afraid you would do the same thing and she said that she would not knowing how I feel. MY QUESTION: Am I overreacting. (I am very close to all my aunts/auncles and cousins on both my moms and dads side.).
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That was last year- a long time ago. You need to move on.
Your mom didn't take one of your purses and give it to your aunt- she asked you to, and you did. It was your choice. Since they were so inexpensive, it shouldn't be a big deal. You really don't need seven of each color, especially if they last you a lifetime. Personally if I find a purse I like, I buy two of my favorite color or maybe 1 of each color I like. Your mom probably won't ask you to do the same thing again. Easier said than done but try not to worry about it.
Yes, you are overreacting. You have tons of extra purses, in fact you have too many. Losing 1 doesn't make a difference
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No, I don't think that you're overreacting. You can feel however you want, because it's your property. I mean what does an 87 year old woman need with a purse?
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I'm thinking that if you are old enough it may be time to strike out on your own. A place where you can have your own rules.
If that isn't affordable then you may need to talk to mom and have her understand that what is in your room is yours and you really don't want her touching things in there without your permission.
Then keep everything of value to you in your room.
You are right, your mom shouldn't give your stuff away without consulting you first. It doesn't sound as though she did it to be mean to you though, she says if she knew how you felt she wouldn't do it now.
I don't think you are overreacting but you really should have said something at the time. Holding onto grudges for a year isn't good for your health. :)
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