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Old friends....New friends
I've always been kind of a drifter. I had 2 groups of friends "the immature" and "the popular". I've tryed to decide who I wanted to be friends with. I decided the popular group because they like the things I like and are more matture. But my old friends don't want to let me go. They keep inviting me over but I say I cant because im already going to my other friends houses. And at school im taking to my friends and they all run up to me and are like "Hey whats up!?! Why dont you talk to us." So me and my friends just walk away. I don't feel guilty. HOW DO I DROP THEM? Because they're trying to stick to me like glue. I seriosly just dont want to talk to them. because if I say "Hey." when im walking they try to link arms and tell me about their life.
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its always good to have a side group,incase you get into a fight with the other ones. anyways, just do what you do,drift away,start hanging out with the other people more and when the "immature" group starts talking to you just answer quickly and short so theres no more conversation.just act uninteresting around them,and they'll forget about you. its always good to fuse both of your groups together so everyones friends. if your willing to give up that group that easily,you probably werent close with them to begin with.just keep doing what your doing,if they get mad at you act like it doesnt even matter,compleatly ignore them but in a nice way,incase you ever want to be there friends again. act like the people in the popular group have got you. like for instence, "hey jen (pretend your jen) wanna hang out this weekend?" "I would but jill and cassie already invited me somewhere im sorry!" like that. you know, dont make it seem like you are blowing them off,make it seem like your haveing more fun with the populars and are pulled in by them popular group. hmmm....even though if i were you i'd stick to both but have my new friends be the main group and old the side. you know though,your not going to be as close with the popular group yet,it'll take a while.you might feel left out,anyways good luck !!
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Do you have a reason why you want to chose just one? Why not hang out with both? I don't understand why you can't have both as friends. Is it because the "popular" group doesn't like them...? Can you explain a little more?
If you really want to hang out with the popular group only for a really good reason, I suggest you tell your friends, "Look, I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I think we shouldn't be friends any more. Because, __________________ <--insert really good reason there, so I found new friends to be with. I'm sorry. Maybe we can talk and everything, but they're more mature and they're much more like me. I'm not saying I hate you... It's just I don't really feel like I have a good friendship going on here."
Don't be harsh and insult them rudely. Tell them calmly and kindly. Besides, who wants to pretend to like someone, right??
Tell me how it goes!!
-Jenny C
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