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Friend?
ok well im 14 and me and my friend have been best friends pretty much sense we were like 3 or 4 and like ever sense i can remember she has always been kind of like jelious when ever i get a new realllyy good friend she like freaks out. like right now in 7th grade i became best friends with my friend bailey, and now she has like been oh my gosh is bailey taking my spot? am i just like some annoyance that thinks shes your best friend? and i don't know its like really bothering me and i keep telling her no one can take her place, but like today i told her i wasn\'t gonna ride the bus home because my boyfriend was staying after school and hes been sick so i wnted to like hang out with him, and she left me a voice mail saying ok what is up with you, i mean if bailey is your new best friend then maybe i should just get some one to act like my bew best friend and i dont know she is just like totally going over board and i don\'t know what to do, like the more she does this the more i am getting annoyed with her and not wanting to hang out with her, but how do i tell her to stop? please help me with this guys!!! thanks!
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sometimes, friends come 2 weird conclusions dat sum1 could juss come out of nowhere and take their spot! =/ what you need 2 do isz have a long talk wid your friend and tell her dat NO MATTER WHAT, you`ll always be der 4 her and no1 could EVER take her spot (make shure she feelsz confident about what your saying)! tell her how you feel about her as a friend and show her dat you care about her feelings. explain 2 her dat your new friend is sum1 you`re close wit, but she wont replace her as a friend. and if you have this talk in person, it might be a little better cause den you can give her a bigg hugg for comfort =] hope i helped!!
sincerely,
chikita
(P.S.- good luck!!) =D
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I definately agree with Cherise, but I also think that you need to just sit down with her and have a long conversation about it. I understand that you have told her that no one is taking her place, but you need to do it extremely sincerely, and I don't think that you should get annoyed with her because generally when people get like that it's because they are feeling left out or maybe even having a low self esteem. If you have more friends than her, then that maybe one reason. So just talk to her. One on one and in person and see what that does for you.
Hope that helped =)
Good Luck
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I think you should hang out with both of them at the same time. I learned this from experience.. my friend Gabii got the same way as your friend from 3 or 4 years old and she left a voicemail saying oh my gosh your boyfriend Dylan is like taking my place. I made them hang out with me but didnt tell Gabii that Dylan was going to be there and didnt tell Dylan that Gabii was going to be there. It worked and they both reliezed how important they are to me. Then if this doesnt work and your friend is still jealous then talk it out with her and if she isnt being understanding dont talk to her for a few days. This will be hard but dont give in she will respect your decision of not talking.
Cherise
p.s-tell me how this works out for you. Good Luck!
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