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my boyfriend is so clingy
Heyy, me and my boyfriend have been together for over four months and he's amazing, he treats me like a princess and is anything i could ever ask for but he can be very clingy. Like i have to say ok tonight like you cant hold my hand or something for him to leave me alone but if like i maybe put my arm around him he's all over me and my friends get upset. His friends are mad and mean to him b/c of it and he feels weird being around them so he just sticks to me but i dont want to loose my friends, its like he doesnt know how to socialize. I really need help like he needs to win his friends back in order to back off of me but he feels like he cant do that b/c they are mad [which they are extremly upset about the whole thing they say he spends too much time with me] :/
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It is true that clinginess is a sign you boyfriend truly cares about you and doesn't want to lose you, however this kind of behavior can get awfully annoying in a short period of time.
You need to pull your boyfriend aside and explain to him that you don't feel comfortable with him showing so much affection in public. Not only are your friends and his friends not comfortable being around while this is happening, but more importantly, you aren't comfortable. Explain to him that although you appreciate his affection for you, it should be saved for times when you two are alone, and you are comfortable with the situation.
Next, tell him you need to spend some alone time with your friends, and he needs to spend some time with his friends. It's a bad situation to be in when the only companions you have are each other. Explain that you do not want him to lose his friends, and giving each other space will help loosen the clingy bond he has with you.
Just remember, YOU need to feel comfortable with whatever your boyfriend is doing.
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I've been in your boat before, trust me.
Tell him one night, soon probably, that you're having a girls night out.
Tell him to go hang with your friends because you just want some girl talk or something along those lines.
If he gets upset or makes a big deal out of it, you just need to tell him no, tell him you want to spend some fun time with your friends, and only your friends, you're not trying to be rude.
good luck. =] & i hope i helped. let me know.
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