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Falling for ex bf again
Here's my situation..I went out with my ex for almost year (we even went to college together freshman year) but things didnt go as well as I planned and I broke up with him bc I wanted to "experience" college. I dated another guy, which was a disaster, and he dated another girl. The whole time I was in a relationship with another guy, my ex would constantly call me and write me letters about how much he stilled loved me and how I was the best thing that ever happened to him, but I just kinda ignored them bc I was "head over heels" for the new guy..Well the new guy and I broke up bc he cheated on me and a few months later my ex and I started talking and hanging out again and Im starting to have strong feelings for him again, so now I am stuck. Now he doesnt act as interested as he used to be and I told him how I feel about him and how we should try again but he keeps changing the subject. The thing is, he still claims hes in love with me and tells me that everyday and we hang out all the time so I dont know what his deal is..I feel like if I keep bugging him about it, he's gonna think im really annoying. And it seems like I am always the initiator...is he just giving me a taste of my own medicine (the fact that I acted that way when he tried getting back together) or is it somethng else? Has anyone been through the same situation??
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ok,well you should invite him for a talk over dinner at your place. just you and him.
and get to talking and stuff dont just blirt it out as soon as he sits down. then look him in the eye and say,"(his name), i have known you quite a while. and i know the first time we tried to get together it didn't really work out, but i am interested in having another go and i wanted to know if you felt the same way." if he tries to change the subject just say simply is that a no because if it is i understand your not ready, and finish your dinner.
but if he says he is seeing someone then dont get super dramatic about like,"Oh my gosh i loved you so much and then you just lead me on an drop kick me to the curb!!!!!!"
no no no don't do that it is all about keeping your cool. just be simple
an i hope my advice works out!
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well, since you did go out for over a year, i think he would know you by now.. and so all you have do is tell him that you want to just hang out with you and him one day and then sit him down and tell him that you want to get this straightened out, and this will be the last time you talk about it. Then, you tell him how you feel about him and you just want to know if he still feels the same way that he did, and if he does then ask if you guys can try to make things work again, and if not, then you can know that he doesnt feel the same way and you can move on. this is the besst way i know how to deal with your situation. i hope it works.
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You should stay away from him for a while. Keep your distance. It seems that you never really separated before. Yes, you were broken up, but in both of your hearts and minds you were still together. You need to stop talking to him. He needs to find some other way to occupy his mind than with you. Let this happen for a good month or two and then see what happens. You two never really let each other go and now its a comfort and/or a convenience factor that is keeping you two from separating. This doesn't mean dating someone else. Just find out who you are without him, especially since you just entered college.
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Yeah he's giving you "a taste of your own medicine" thing.
He probably feels like.. he was on the sidelines.
So if this relationship with that new guy didn't work out.. you'll automatically go back to your ex. So he might feel a bit used.
I've been in the same situation, but I'm sure you could fix it and get back together. Just lay off the subject but keep him close, you know? But don't suffocate... Just try making more plans with him, if it's possible.
Time will tell what he wants.
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